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Unwanted contact from ex

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FlowerFox · 02/09/2022 05:33

Hello, I’d be really grateful if anyone could help. An ex partner I was with for over 10 years has just got in touch out of the blue. The reason we divorced was that he committed a crime which was serious and shocking and so I left the marriage and everyone I know cut ties with him. I haven’t seen him in 5 years or had any contact since the divorce was finalised however last night out of the blue I had a WhatsApp message and two emails to different accounts trying to find out if the number/emails were active still. After the breakup I had reason to believe he was tracking my location from my phone but this was never proven. Because the nature of the crime he committed was so disturbing and unforeseen I am actually quite scared because I don’t know what he’s capable of. I immediately blocked the number on WhatsApp but I don’t know if I should take any further action. I cannot change phone numbers easily as it’s a work number. I have moved on and am engaged but we are in process of adoption and so I also have to consider this as I have to put forward a case why they should not contact my ex for reference. Do I get a friend to email him and say no contact, do I just ignore? The crime he committed was disturbing and so a friend advised I report to the police to put on the record it’s unwanted contact - any advice appreciated.

OP posts:
Dery · 02/09/2022 08:11

In your shoes, I would ignore him but report the contact to the police. And as you say, you cannot have SS contacting your ex for a reference in relation to your adoption process.

Dery · 02/09/2022 08:12

You could ask the police to warn him off. No-one else should contact him on your behalf.

BCBird · 02/09/2022 08:13

I agree with the above. Good luck with everything.

FlowerFox · 02/09/2022 09:40

Thank you everyone. I’ve also realised this morning he’s been logging into an old email address of mine (the security verification shows he’s linked his new number to the account). This makes me more definite to contact police as that’s a line crossed. Thank you for confirming I’m not overreacting. X

OP posts:
Bobbins36 · 02/09/2022 09:45

That’s definitely a line crossed. Police for this. What a creep xx

Annabananna1 · 02/09/2022 09:48

Police.

Make no direct or indirect contact.

And it is a pain in the arse you you need to change your number too.

AgentJohnson · 02/09/2022 11:46

Make no contact and passwords for any accounts he may have known of need to be hanged and two step verification needs to be set up. Ask the Police for advice.

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