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3 weeks after split I don’t feel any better… and my ex has contacted me

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Charlie1995 · 01/09/2022 22:31

Hi!
so I’ve posted before and now just feel like I need some more advice. My ex left me 3 weeks ago as he ‘loves me but isn’t in love with me anymore’ and my life has been turned upside down ever since. Every day is a struggle, and the scary thing is that it still hasn’t got even remotely better. I still miss him like crazy and just want things to be okay again. But I know he’s gone.
Anyway, 2 days ago (on what would have been our anniversary) after a couple of weeks of no contact, he tried to call me. I ignored it initially as I was shocked, I have been blocked everywhere since we split and I moved out of his house. I text him asking why he’s calling, and he said to call him back asap as he needs to speak to me. Then one minute later he told me never mind, he’s found what he was looking for. He then asked me another random question about an email address I used on his pc I when we were together. I then called him, and we had a little chat where I told him I love him and miss him and he basically just said goodbye.

Why would he get in touch with me over something so pointless and random when he has made it clear he never wants to talk to me again?
I have been struggling the last few weeks but I was starting to at least function a little bit, now I’m back at step one. He also blocked me again on everything after our chat.

Struggling a lot right now. I’m up for work at 5am and I know I will be awake all night upset. I don’t even know what I am asking, I just want to know why he would bother contacting for no reason, and how do you pick yourself up again after the worst heartbreak of your life. I feel like it should have started getting better by now, or at least I should be functioning again. But I’m still not

OP posts:
Mosso · 01/09/2022 22:40

He's just seeing if you're still available for him.

Keep him blocked. You'll be okay Flowers

TeddyBeans · 01/09/2022 22:44

Agree with Mosso. You've got this, keep looking forward and block him everywhere!

Monty27 · 01/09/2022 23:06

He's keeping you on the boil. Don't react to anything he does and you shouldn't communicate with him at all.
He's using you for a back up. Please don't fall for it OP. He left you saying he's not in love with you anymore.
Love yourself 💐

KangarooKenny · 02/09/2022 08:00

He’s checking that you’re still on the end of the string. Cut it.

ShandaLear · 02/09/2022 08:09

He’s using you to boost his ego. Don’t feed the beast. Block block block.

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