I feel so desperate....

[ChristmasSnowCookie]

My husband and I separated December 2nd 2020. Everytime I tried to move on he threatened to kill himself. I'm struggling really bad. My mental health has taken a dive again and I need to get out. He works so gets half the money and so I haven't been able to save up to move on. We have 3 children. He never does anything with them.

I stayed at my sisters last night to catch a break. The council house we have currently is beyond repair. My husband does nothing. I've come home the house has not been cleaned. In fact it's a shit hole and I'm mortified.

I am so desperate to leave with my kids. They need a house that isn't full of mould and broken things. My husband has never hit me, but the emotional abuse has taken a toll and he's making it impossible for me to move on. He has punched a hole in the beyhroom door.

Both are names are on this tenancy so the council won't help me.

I don't want help in kicking him out as he has nowhere to go and my children deserve better than this. Their mental health is suffering too.

What are my options? I'm struggling to find a place to private rent with a zero deposit and as I've just come out of full time education, I don't have a job and mentally aren't fit to work right now.

Can I leave this place with my children and explain this? Would this be classed as domestic abuse, would they rehouse me temporarily.

My life is a mess. I need out. I need a new place for my children.

What are my options? Please help.

If you could report the abuse, he would be removed from the property.

The council can then either help to rehouse you, or have him removed from the tenancy.

Without reporting the abuse, there is very little they can do.

He is not your responsibility; you need to protect yourself and the children first.

Can you call Womens Aid? They will help x

Hi, I did contact women's aid and they did offer to have him removed BUT, I need to move house. This house is so mouldy, there's constant leaks that aren't repaired properly. It's just an awful place. Yes, we would still have a roof over heads but the state of this place effects put mental health too.

I completely agree but one problem at a time and he is the biggest problem right now.

Once he is gone you can get on to the council about the house, you might need to kick up a fuss or get your local MP involved but they need to sort the house out for you, and they will.

If you leave that house without anywhere to go you are unlikely to be offered another council tenancy, you need to hold on to it for dear life.

How old are the DC? You could ask to go into a refuge but it may not be local and you may not end up with a better home in the end so it's still a risk.

That sounds crap, OP, but I think you may need to tackle one problem at a time. Get your husband off the tenancy and out the house by reporting his abuse, then try to move. If you leave the house with the kids now, you may well end up in accommodation that is worse than what you have at the moment, unfortunately. Sorry that you are in such a difficult situation.

I also think one thing at a time; get him removed first off; then ask the council for help with thr property

I agree to get him removed and make sure the council help with the property, it's their duty and you need to make sure that they do it.