Are there any good dating websites?

[toooldtodate]

Not quite ready yet to venture into this new world of dating but it seems like there are constant articles in press at the moment about how awful OLD dating is

So is there any actually any good dating websites out there?

For a 39 yr old single mum who feels too young to be single but too old to date?

They are very very similar and very often you find the same people on many of them (it's free to sign up so why would there be one that's better than others?)

I personally like hinge although I've met some decent guys from tinder too. You need to want this and be ruthless or you'll run away scared

Are the paid ones better?

I met my husband on plenty of fish, that was the best site for me...was nearly 4yrs ago so not sure if it's still good! X

Not for me. I paid for hinge and tinder at ons point.

You get lots of crappy messages but I only replied to those professional men who I thought could be a match (I am an MD so I was expecting someone also quite high up). I had dates with law firms partners, private equity people and all that.

Be ruthless only reply to those who match your criteria but also be realistic - my "compromises" were age (I didn't want anyone under 50 anyway) and height (I'm not fussed about that). The rest was non negotiable and I met quite a few men who matched my criteria

Congratulations!

I guess I won't know until I start. I'm
Not ready yet by any means but didn't want to leave it too long as honestly there articles lately just make me feel panicked that I'll be alone forever!

I think they are all the same and speaking to people they say all the same men are on the same sites, even the paid for ones the guys are on the free ones as well

@SpinningFloppa

Yes that's my worry too

I'd try and do some hobbies but with 3 young children and only every other weekend able to do something then can't see that being possible

Then I don't have a very wide circle of friends to meet a friend of a friend either

Sounds sensible

All the sites are pretty much the same TBH - its just a case of personal preference really. Sites like Tinder, Bumble Hinge all work with the premise you can't message anyone unless you both swipe to "like" Plenty of Fish is a free for all and anyone can message anyone. I liked Bumble as it has to be the women who messages first after a "match" I felt more in control.

Most important thing is to wait until you're in the right frame of mind. OLD can be fun and exciting or hilarious even - or it can be brutal and soul destroying depending on your point of view. If you are in a positive place and ready for adventure you should enjoy it.
Be prepared for anything and think about your boundaries - then stick to them!

I got Lucky 3 years ago and found my long term partner on Bumble. I approached it with a sense of excitement and I had a few fun dates before I met BF.

Have fun!

OH - and PS it's not worth paying for any sites.

I met my fiance ,7 years ago on badoo,I felt tinder was full of fakes but that was back then I'm not sure what's it's like now x

I met my soon to be husband on hinge. I paid for it which didn't really make much difference as there was a few bugs so we quickly went to WhatsApp but there were a few decent guys on there as well as the weirdos. Good luck!

My friend used e-harmony and married the first guy she matched with! They are still together 10 years later and I can see how ridiculously in love they are. It's kind of adorable ☺️

up until this moment I thought that difficulties with OLD dating meant the older generation having a bad time in the dating game 😂 I’ve just clicked it means online dating 😅

I know a few couples who met on that site but like your friends it's was 10 years ago - seems like it was much better back then

I can't say if any website is good or bad because this is very subjective and depends largely on your tastes and goals. I can just suggest something new, that works as a middle point between social media and dating site: Meetero (which begins with www. and ends with .com). Meetero is completely different than usual dating sites, it has additional social features and works fully in favor of users, not in favors of advertisers.

My younger sister swears by Bumble and Hinge; More high-quality men compared to Tinder.
My general take on online dating is that it's all about looks and quite shallow. With the constant swiping, there is always a better choice for both genders.

In my opinion, doing something you love could be a good alternate without feeling shit about yourself. Hiking clubs, school activities, volunteering/community events,..

Best of luck and get out there!