My husband told me yesterday he is going to leave today and find somewhere to live. Last night on the phone to his mother, he told her he thought I was cheating on him (not happening at all), then said lots of things about how I didn’t smile enough at our wedding, how I always nit-pick and he’s too laid-back for that, he said lots of people think he’s awesome, she said some things but I’m not sure what was said but I think she asked why doesn’t he move back to them (they’re two hours away) this was all said in ear shot of me, there was laughing and joking in between them, I felt humiliated and deeply hurt. I have since sent a message to his mother explaining the many problems we had in our marriage, she should know too, she read it but hasn’t responded, it covered his lack of communication, verbal and emotional abuse, his constant drinking and telling me it’s my problem if I don’t like it. Last night I left the house after the call because I was in a state of shock. When I came back late last night, he must of looked in my bag and came into the kitchen and asked “Is he good!” He’d actually thought I went out, met up with this imagery man he thinks I’m cheating on him with and had sex. He asked why I had knickers in my bag, I actually had a top, make up, deodorant, spare knickers and a pillow and sheet, as I didn’t plan on coming home. He cheated on me in the early part of our relationship (not physical as far as I know) and had an emotional affair with a colleague about 5 years ago (not physical as far as I know) too.
Anyway, to those that have been through this, what are my next steps?