Massive dilemma, who do I choose

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I feel I like I'm still in love with the Father of ny child who I see often and we still sleep together. The relationship was toxic but he's a great dad and lover. I felt like he was the love of my life but he's emotionally quite immature

Meanwhile I met a beautiful man who I paper is perfect, professional, stable, kind, attractive ...I've been seeing him for 8 months

I'm so conflicted. The stable man has asked me to marry him but I can't let the love of my life go even though I know my Life would not be as good and would be more volatile. He is an amazing Father but together we didn't work. And we love each other

Shall I just choose neither

You're all right. Thanks a bunch

Ditch the ex and date the nice guy …. Too soon to be thinking about marriage

No don’t date the nice guy, you’ve been cheating on him. Let him go, he deserves better. Ditch the ex too and work on your self esteem.

Are these two men aware that your seeing both of them? Reason why I ask you could end up with nothing.

Maybe step back from both for a while and have some counselling g to unpick why you feel the way you do and resolve the issues.

To be clear, I'm not seeing both of them at all at the moment but they do want to resume a relationship.

But you stated in your OP "Father of ny child who I see often and we still sleep together."
Thats kind of a definition of seeing someone is it not??

You are cheating on both of them.

If a man had written this post he would of been ripped to shreds on here.

I wish you Luck OP - but honestly you need to drop both men and work on yourself.

You said that you still sleep with your ex. You're seeing the other bloke, presumably he doesn't know that you still sleep with your ex. It's a mess and it's not a case of either or.

I'd stop sleeping with both of them and choose to put your child and yourself first while you work some things out.

Thanks everyone

I've blocked the nice guy and told ex only to engage when talking about the child

You've been seeing the new guy for 8 months, he's asked you to marry him... And you've just blocked him?! But you say your ex is emotionally immature?!

You've blocked the nice guy with no explanation? Wow, that's cold.

I don't believe for one minute you'll stop shagging your ex either!

Beautifully worded cornish

You blocked the man you've been seeing 8 months who asked you to marry him? He deserves an explanation.

Why have you blocked the nice guy? Feel like you should have blocked the ex (told him to go through a parent/mutual friend for chatting about child access) and gave the nice guy a decent explanation.

By the hell did you block a decent person?!

Because it's easier than telling him the truth?

OP isn't in love with her ex either, that sounds more like a trauma bond.

After an explanation or have you just ghosted the "perfect"am who wanted to marry you??