Dating a guy and suddenly can’t be bothered

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Been dating a guy for around 8 weeks and I thought I really liked him. His home life situation at the minute is a mess but he is working towards sorting it out asap.

I am supposed to be meeting him this afternoon and I should be getting ready but I’m just sitting here. I just can’t be bothered. I don’t know what’s changed. Up until last week I was so excited about seeing him but today I just feel nothing. I can’t cancel. His work means this will be the last opportunity to see him for two weeks so I’m going to have to go. I don’t understand why my feelings have done a 360.

Is it doomed?

Is it the place / activity / weather that doesn't appeal?

Could you suggest you do something different?

Is it the messy home life plus unavailability due to work in combination making you think 'sod this, I'm not getting in too deep emotionally'? Probably pretty sensible if so. Unless you're certain it's a 'no', you could still go on the date and leave the possibility open. I wouldn't be spending loads of time on the phone or messaging while he's away though.

Is it the messy home life plus unavailability due to work in combination making you think 'sod this, I'm not getting in too deep emotionally'? Probably pretty sensible if so. Unless you're certain it's a 'no', you could still go on the date and leave the possibility open. I wouldn't be spending loads of time on the phone or messaging while he's away though.

It's fine to change your mind about someone in the early days, I find the best thing is to end it soon as you feel disinterested, don't keep him hanging on if you don't feel it. Perhaps as your not going to be seeing him the next two weeks, is good timing anyway.

Do what you want. If you want to stay home, do that. It's not about whether the relationship 'is doomed'. That's a dramatic interpretation.

The fact is that if you have a successful relationship, it'll be one in which you can do what you want, and feel free to do so. So, if you do that now, and it 'dooms' things, it wasn't the right relationship for you. I'd just tell him you're sorry to let him down, but you really don't feel like going out today, have a good couple of weeks, and 'hopefully see you after that'.

I imagine that your instincts are probably saying 'No time to see me for a whole fortnight, and messy home life he's having to sort out? Can't be bothered, to be honest...'

Respect how you feel.

I feel like if you're not bothered only 8 months in regardless of the situation, you're just not that into him.