Have I made the right decision

[Linda409]

I have been seeing D for ten months. We had a few weekends away (4) but essentially I saw him one night each weekend, always at his house. We go to the same pub, eat the same food and have sex. The next day he brings me home.
Emotionally he likes to box me off. If something is difficult or challenging he can’t talk about it on the phone or by text, so I have to save it to the weekend when our time is always limited. I have recently been told I have to leave my rental property. I got really upset. He accused me of wallowing and said I need to be more positive!
He cannot prioritise my needs and recently went on holiday with his ex wife and children because he said it would upset his daughter if he didn’t go. His daughter is 24 and in a long term relationship herself. When he got back I said let’s do something for the bank holiday weekend. He said oh, that will be expensive and anyway I’ve arranged to meet up with my daughter.
I have ended it but he thinks this is because he went on holiday with his wife. It wasn’t that it was that plus everything else. Thing is I am 56 , so is he, should I just have settled!?

Absolutely not. He sounds selfish!

run from this man and you shouldn’t be playing second fiddle to his daughter either! At 24 years of age if he wants to be there for her 24/7 that’s all well and good but imagine what that would look like over and over

also I’m all for positive relationships but a holiday with the ex wife? No thank you

youve dodged a bullet

Never settle, ever.

Are you sure the wife is an ex? Just one night a week you see him? Never in the week or at different days/times?

You were right in ending this crap relationship in which you played second fiddle to his family consisting of ex wife and grown up daughter.

Better to be on your own than to be so badly accompanied. Never settle, doing so does you a real disservice. You also need to ask yourself why you settled for so little during this relationship at all.

This was my first thought too. Something isn't adding up here. I think you dodged a bullet with this one.

You don't need to settle regardless of your age.

No op you did the right thing. Your instincts are right; he’s boxing you off, this sounds so unfulfilling at 10 months in.

Carry on now and don’t look back, what a lucky escape from this selfish compartmentaliser.

Yes, pretty sure they were divorced. He didn’t see me in the week because I have a teenager and he was working. I am his fourth relationship since they divorced.

No! You deserve better, but then again, do you need anyone THAT badly?
www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4621665-i-have-outgrown-men?page=1

Just leave him to it, he sounds really selfish.