I left my verbally, emotionally and psychologically abusive ex at Xmas. He was vile not only to me but to my eldest and manipulates my youngest to be on 'his side' as she can't see through him yet. He plans to buy me out the house, but I live here with dcs until he can get the money together, which could be another year.
I've met someone and all is going well. My eldest won't stay with ex overnight as he's an asshole to her. My ex won't tolerate me having a partner in my house. How do I move on in this predicament? Is it reasonable to expect to be able to have a partner in my home despite ex's aspirations to live here again and him not wanting 'the family home disrespected'? I can go to new partners house for the most part but to be able to sustain a relationship I need to be able to see him more than the once a fortnight my dc wants to see their dad. And it would be nice to be able to sleep overnight with my partner. I never force dcs to go, it's on dc's terms due to the nature of ex's addictions and moods.
My dc haven't met my partner yet, they don't even know about him. But the relationship is ready to progress and ex is a barrier. What's reasonable here?