No contact with one parent?

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In an odd situation where we've gone NC with FIL for good reason. MIL understands and supportives this but despite decades of emotional abuse will not leave him

I feel so sorry for MIL she is stuck in the middle but he is a vile man and his words and actions were starting to affect our children so we had no choice.

Anyone else in a similar situation? Its so stressful

This must be rather difficult for you, do you meet up with MIL solo?

Sounds perfectly reasonable to avoid your FIL if he's vile, it's your choice to remove your children from his behaviour if you see fit.

All you can do is keep encouraging her to leave. I’d imagine it’s very difficult when she’s been with him many years. Often her a get out, place to stay, all you can do. As long as she’s not in immediate danger I think you just need to let her come to her own decision, which is probably staying with him. It’s hard to leave later in life too when you’ve built a whole life together and know little else