I need some help please

[Loulou871]

Hi,
I just need some advice please as I’ve got to the point where I can’t even see right from wrong.
Me and my recent ex were together for 7 years , engaged for 4.
He's been up and down in regards to whether he wants me or our future, never happy with our life or spending time with me - we still live together as we’re selling the house. I hung on for 5 months hoping he was going to change his mind.
He's now changing his mind saying he misses me etc but can’t commit to marriage.
i feel like after 7 years there shouldn’t be any doubt - I want to settle down and I’m not sure I can trust he won’t change his mind again.
I just need to get some outside perspective please

Do not go back to this man. Sell the house and move on. This will only end in your tears again.

I’m sorry he’s such a flake but you deserve so much more than this commitment phobe!

He's wasted enough of your life already. Don't allow him to waste even more. He's a user, a liar and a man you will never be able to trust. He doesn't care about you at all. Get shot of him as quickly as possible.

Always easy for people to have an opinion. You say ex, house selling and now he thinks he wants you back. You must love him very much and I am sad to hear this is happening to you. I think it is time for you to let him go despite him saying he wants you back. I think that sounds like his insecurity creeping in. Things won’t change. It may be great for a year and will soon revert back to how it was. It will be the hardest thing you have ever done. Time to be on your own and enjoy who you are. No one should be so indecisive at that stage in a relationship. Surround yourself with friends and family. Keep busy and ignore him. He won’t like you not being present in his life but I don’t believe that is because he wants you but maybe just because he needs you. He probably thinks the grass is greener but is too scared to go and find out. Let him go and don’t allow him to emotionally blackmail you. Or stay with him and hope it works out.
good luck.

He doesn't want to commit to you but he wants to ensure you don't find somebody else before he does. In the bin he goes!

You want to settle down but you will never feel settled with this guy. 7 years is plenty of time for him to work out that he wants to settle down with you but, by saying he doesn’t want to marry you, he’s expressly leaving open the possibility of moving on to someone else.

You don’t mention children and perhaps you don’t want any, but with his considerably longer fertility window, you could easily find he runs your body clock down and then buggers off and starts a family with a younger woman.

It’s great that he’s an ex. You’ve done the right thing. Move forward now and don’t let him waste any more of your time.

Move on. Don’t let him keep you dangling any more.