Fell for someone while travelling.

[anonymousbear]

As the title says, recently went on vacation and met someone there who I have fallen for.

I saw them a few times over the two weeks, but never went further than courtesies and small talk as they were working. However, I haven't been able to get them out of my mind. I have never felt this way for someone in so long. I know this can be easily chalked up to lust/infatuation, and maybe so, but I can't help but feel there could be something there, and although it sounds ridiculous, I don't want to never see them again. Am I being irrational? Any advice?

Are you in touch with them? Swapped numbers / follow on social media etc?

Well, do you have their phone number? Did / do they feel the same? If you’re both adults I’d get practical about it, that’s my advice.

Are you both single? Do you live reasonably close to each other? If so - go for it!

Sadly not. I saw them 10 out of the 14 days I was there. I was with a group of friends, and as I mentioned, he was working so it felt like the conversations could only be short. It's difficult to convey why I feel as strongly as I do but it's not a feeling I get often, and wanted nothing more than to keep talking to him. I didn't have the confidence to ask for his number or ask him out, and knowing I'd be coming back home to get on with life was making it difficult to feel it was the best idea. I live 2 hours away, but it's not quick to travel there regularly.

Sadly not. I saw them 10 out of the 14 days I was there. I was with a group of friends, and as I mentioned, he was working so it felt like the conversations could only be short. It's difficult to convey why I feel as strongly as I do but it's not a feeling I get often, and wanted nothing more than to keep talking to him. I didn't have the confidence to ask for his number or ask him out, and knowing I'd be coming back home to get on with life was making it difficult to feel it was the best idea. I live 2 hours away, but it's not quick to travel there regularly.

Can you add them on Facebook or Insta?

Two hours is not much. Can you travel back. Did they work where you were a guest? Any suspicion the feeling is mutual?

I feel he could have. He didn't seem chatty or sociable to many people, not even my group, but always was with me, he stood close and when he wasn't near me, he'd always look over.
Typing it out makes it seem minuscule, and as I mentioned previously, it's difficult to explain why there's strong feelings. But they're there and I still can't squash them.

2 hours really isn’t much and you have the advantage that you know where to find him. He doesn’t know where to find you. Yes, this might all be nothing but I think it’s worth a quick venture back there to see whether there is scope for something more. This seems like one of those “nothing ventured, nothing gained” situations to me.

Was this in Egypt or Turkey by any chance..

I would go back and talk to him. Two hours isn’t much if you really like someone. If he says no, then you can move on without wondering «what if..?»

Nope. Never been to either of those places.

I disagree with going back. That would be awkward and slightly stalkerish!

You didn't have a conversation with him, you have no idea if he's married with 4 children, gay, or in a relationship. I think he would have at least struck up a conversation if he wanted something to happen and mentioned when his shift finished.

Leave it as a nice fantasy.

I'm firmly of the belief that we can have many soul mates, life isn't a romantic film where you can fall for "the one" just by looking in their eyes.

Would you really want a long distance relationship with a Spanish waiter or whatever he was, in another country?

I think you've got a bit carried away with romanticism. You don't know this person.