Help.

[Batty18]

Hi, my husband will no longer have an intimate relationship with me. Over the last two years I have suffered emence pain and problems related to this. Now he says he can't be bothered and it's ugly.

End the marriage and move on.

I'm not sure I entirely understand - are you saying your intimate relationship was affected by pain and problems for you, and now your husband has lost interest in intimacy? Is he calling intimacy ugly? Or has he never been interested and that's what's caused you pain?

We've always had a healthy sex life. It stopped because of the irritation initially but now he's saying he can't be bothered and its ugly.

What is ugly? What is irritated and why?

I'm sorry but you're still not being very clear, it's difficult to offer advice of any sort if you're so vague.

My understanding is that your sex life dried up for two years because of some sort of irritation? And now your husband has lost interest in sex, and is either calling sex itself or your anatomy ugly? Is that about the gist or have I got the wrong end of the stick?

If you're no longer happy in the relationship, leave. If he's horrible, leave.

That's about the gist of it
I was very very uncomfortable down below which was looked into and is hormonal/ plus lichen planus. They discovered that I had a double prolapse. Because of the irritation we didn't have sex but now when I make advanced of this sort he says I don't want to irritate anything or no looking at that prolapse is discusting. Sorry if it was vague.

My husband says my vaginal/ bladder prolapse is ugly .

My exes mother had prolapses and had them operated on successfully. Are you on a waiting list for this? It would make you feel more comfortable.