What are these type of comments - am I over sensitive

[GinnyJelly]

Been seeing a guy for a few months. One weird thing I’ve noticed is him randomly connecting me to negative discussions (often about appearance) when the discussion wasn’t about me. Sorry, this is hard to explain but it makes me uncomfortable. An example would be we were discussing a local business that employs attractive women in a front of house role, the discussion was nothing to do with me wanting to work there or anything it was about dress codes and he pipes up ‘don’t worry, I think you’re attractive’!? There have been a few similar comments that come about during an unconnected discussion. I’ve never said anything negative about my appearance or fished for compliments, what is this behaviour?

Have you asked him? When he says these things to you, how do you respond?

A form of negging I'd guess

You're not being over sensitive. Massive red flag 🚩

Normally I just ignore but with the latest comment I pulled him up on it, he just said he didn’t realise what he was saying.

Yeah sounds like attempted subtle negging. Grim.

Into the bin he goes. What a fucking weirdo, and it's definitely a form of negging You don't need this kind of mind fuckery in your life.

What's is negging

Negging. Which is grim in itself but also means he's probably a Reddit bro podcast weirdo.
walking red flag

I had a similar thing with a man I really liked last year. He would make comments about weight-positive ones about over weight women, out of conntext to the conversation. Like on the first date he talked about how women thought men don’t like a curvy women but they do, or mentioning that I should not feel bad as he had a belly too. I am actually losing weight and feel good, however this is something I don’t mention or talk about to anyone esp men and it really threw me off balance. Like he could tell I have a bit of a thing about it and was trying to wrong foot me.