I get on pretty well with my mother in law. She's so generous to the kids and great to talk to over the phone, but this unfortunately is all we have - a telephone relationship. She also never calls, she texts me or her son to initiate contact and is very interested in our lives and so always so friendly on the phone. She lives 2.5 hours a way. So a visit with a young child is easier if we can stop the night. She's always been a bit funny about us visiting so we are really mindful never to overstay our welcome, 24hrs at most. She doesn't cook so my husband does and more recently we take our own food too. We probably attempt to visit about 3-4 times a year. This last month she has a sibling from overseas staying with her for a month. She was moaning about it to us. She said on numerous occasions before the visit that her sibling can stay with other family in the area if we want to come down for a night to take our little one to the beach, as "my family come first". So when my husband suggested a couple of dates, she suggested that we visit the beach and drive straight back that day as her sibling has guests coming over on both of those weekends! It hurts cause it feels like she can't be bothered with our toddler. Then this weekend all the family met up. I knew this would happen and we've been excluded from a lot of family events over the years but I just feel confused. I honestly feel like not calling her again but I can't be done with the drama. She does visit us a couple of times a year and stays for two or three nights and has lovely meals cooked for her and she suggested it again so possibly I have to accept that this is the relationship she wants. Just feel a bit used. What would you do? I don't want to feel all bitter about it.