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Silent treatment.

6 replies

Fatarseflanagan09 · 28/08/2022 12:06

I don’t have anyone to talk to about this but I’d like your advice.
whenever we have a disagreement my husband gives me the silent treatment, he carries on like this for days, he won’t take any responsibility for his actions and has never apologized for the hurt that it causes, and blames me for his behavior using the excuse that I upset him years ago, he sees it as justification for his nastiness.
I have mental health issues dating from years ago caused by an abusive ex and I am having therapy, when I get upset I cry and he shouts at me because he can’t handle it and it gets on his nerves, he had a lousy upbringing and an abusive father, I don’t know how to cope anymore, I want to make him see what he’s doing to me but I don’t know how, I’m so depressed and confused but he won’t be happy until I apologize for something that I haven’t done and then he’ll still drag it out, I want to stand up to him but I don’t know how and if I try to talk to him he goes to bed and won’t let me into the room or he goes out and doesn’t come back for hours, I wish I could go to sleep and never wake up.

OP posts:
pompomseverywhere · 28/08/2022 12:13

Do you are in another abusive relationship?

pompomseverywhere · 28/08/2022 12:13

Sorry should've said....

Do you realise you are in another abusive relationship?

Fireflygal · 28/08/2022 12:57

This is abusive behaviour. Do you have children?

Your mental health will be affected by this relationship. Do you think he will change?

newbiename · 28/08/2022 13:06

Sadly you're in another abusive relationship. You need to split up.
What's the housing situation?
Have you got anywhere to go ? Any money ?

Aquamarine1029 · 28/08/2022 13:13

You went from one abuser to another. You have to leave him and you have to get extensive help before you enter into another relationship.

billy1966 · 28/08/2022 15:00

As above.

You are in another abusive relationship.

Can you pack a bag and visit someone?

Reach out to Women's aid for support.

You need to leave him.

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