Ok I know and I'm just rambling here
My ex . I was absolutely in love . But he was a twat .
Every decision was unilateral. Like Xmas dinner - he didn't like turkey so he chose pork . Never asked me what I would like . He made the decision.
He told me I would pay for holidays because his ex had - but I had no contribution to the house other than pay for decor , carpets , paint etc .
He argued all the time . I booked a luxury holiday all inclusive , pis for upgrades like business class etc . When I tried to show him the resort his response was "stop shoving that fucking phone under my nose "
When we got there he accused me of booking a different resort to what I told him. Tried to explain it wasn't . He was angry he thought there wasn't a gym - there was - tried to explain where it was - took him to reception to get them to explain the set up -
He walked out . Stamped his foot and told me he wanted to go home .
He hated me drinking but would ply me with cocktails when it suited him .
He mocked me at work and made me the bitt of his jokes to all our colleagues which I didn't find out till we split
I got pregnant with his child. When he found out she had a chromosome disorder he told me it would be a millstone round our neck and told me he didn't want to continue with the pregnancy but he wouldn't stay with me when I took the pills to abort . In the day he referred to our baby as "that" he said "that would traumatise most people " when she was brought to me to hold .
He wanted sex straight away and I got pelvic inflammatory disease.
He told me I was an embarrassment to him for being off work after the termination. (It was a late term termination)
He changed his will after
An argument to leave the house I was paying for to his ex wife . I didn't know this for a year . Had anything happened to him I'd have been out on my ear .
He barricaded himself in the bedroom after arguments and wouldn't let me in . He smashed lamps and needled me about the baby until I fled the house.
Now what I cannot understand is this - we split because I left . I left with my dog and a suitcase.
He started seeing someone else within 3 months but was still sleeping with me.
He finally ditched me to work on a relationship with this woman . She had a young child . As far as I know they're together 3 years later .
How ?
How can he not be showing her why her showed to me?
Can he really be totally different with her ?
She's moved in with him - so he's now got the "healthy " child he wanted .
But even when he was seeing her and still seeing me in the side - he laughed about the little boy falling off a wall at his mothers bloody mansion .....
How can this woman not see what he showed me ? He couldn't his cruel streak for more than 5 weeks with me - how is he having a successful relationship with someone else and her child ?
My friend stopped speaking to me after festival day out where she told me she saw how he rolled his eyes at everything I said and took the piss out of all I said . She said he treated me like dirt and she had no respect for me anymore because I didn't see it .
I've had colleagues message me since we split telling me the vile things he used to say in meetings about mw to all our colleagues. Personal sexual stuff .
He was only with me because he couldn't satisfy his first wife - he had thought he was sexually inept . With me he wasn't . His ego was massive after that .
Is it possible he can be a different person with his new relationship? After 3 years how can she not see why he is ?
Yea I'm feeling badly done To I guess - he swans off into the sunset with everything he wants .
I've been single since . I'm likely to remain single and I'm 50 with health issues now and my future appears to be quite bleak .
I want to say it's not fair . Which sounds pathetic.
How do these men just move on breeze through ? When they do t deserve to ? How ? Was it just me he didn't gel with ? Was it me that made him nasty ? And he's ok with other people? I do t get it .