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[Lorneeee]

Okay so I have been in a relationship for just over 5 years. We do not live together and I only see him twice a week. I really need some advice here. He's 62 and thinks nothing of cancelling on me to go out with his friends. He will go out all night, ignore my calls and even turn his phone off and not return home from a Saturday night out till Sunday evening sometimes. Then when I question him he always manages to turn the tables and make me feel bad. I'm 13 years younger than him and it's really starting to get me down.

You're his option not his priority. Leave.

You don’t live with him? Dump him, and enjoy being single or find someone else.

Have a relationship with someone who will treat you properly,like me !

Selfish prick. Go find yourself a man younger than him who will treat you better.

Cancelling on you for his mates is really rude behaviour. The fact he doesn’t even lie/make excuses about it to you shows how selfish he is, and how little he cares about your feelings.

Ignoring your calls and turning up 24 hours later shows that he doesn’t want to compromise his lifestyle in any way for you.

Turning the tables on you to make it your fault shows he doesn’t feel he has done anything wrong, and again you are just not important enough for your feelings to count.

He is not in an equal relationship with you and doesnt value you. He sees you as his service human, like his washing machine or his car. He fits you in when it suits him.What does he do to improve your life?

Unless you can get him to see this, it will only get worse.

Im not surprised it’s getting you down. A relationship should make you feel better about yourself. A good relationship should build you up and bring you joy. You may both be older, but you’ve only been together five years, you should still be treating each other well and making each other happy. He is not, and he doesn’t care about you, as long as he gets his own way.

Wish it was that easy!

Thank you for you reply. I think you are completely right about him being selfish. And I also am beginning to realise that I am just a convenience until something better comes up. Usually his mates and the pub!!

Why would you keep giving him the time of day?

I'm not going to anymore. I actually did think he had feelings for me. Obviously I have been delusional. Time for me to wake up!!