Uncomfortable with husband's friendship

[October03]

Told my husband its making me too uncomfortable how much time alone he spends with his new female friend (they go cycling together 2 times a week for 2/3 at time and gobto a karate group twoce a week too). I didnt tell him he cant, but was honest with how it makes me feel. This annoyed him, I said karate group I'm comfortable with and the cycles alone i am not. (He had an affair yrs ago, I do struggle in this area) advice

Well he's got form for not putting appropriate boundaries in place and seeing any friend 4 time a week is a lot so I'm not surprised you're uncomfortable with it.

Added to that, his response to you raising it particularly supportive or encouraging.

Have you met her?

Why’ve you posted this same issue again?

I've seen your other posts too and for what it's worth I wouldn't be happy either. Well done for telling him, his actions next should determine what happens. Short of him cutting it out altogether and being open with his phone would be my expectations from a man who is innocent at this point though

I’m a bit puzzled that you haven’t just continued with your previous thread on which you got lots of advice. As I recall, pretty much no-one thought this was okay since, apart from anything else, he is massively opting out of family life and leaving all the burden to you and his whole general attitude is selfish, disrespectful and a massive piss-take. But I really think you would be better updating your previous thread as there were loads of responses on there and people who recognise your OP might not massively feel like repeating themselves on this one.

I just wasn't sure how I do that, I put this same post on there but wasn't sure if that works or not

That’s great, OP. People will pick it up there, too, then, and start replying. Sorry that you’re in this situation.