Holiday with In-Laws?

[Arsenal123]

My in-laws want us to book 2 weeks off and purchase an AI holiday in the Caribbean with them in Winter for one of their 50th.

I originally said it was a possibility but the time to book has come and I don't know if I'd enjoy it.

We recently came back from a AI beach holiday in Europe. I'm not a fan of the queue for the buffet and (unfairly) reserve a sun lounger type holiday and like to decide my own destination and things like flights.

It would be great to get some winter sun but I am an introvert and a little self-conscious (body image) so I prefer it to be just me and my partner on holidays.

I feel a little guilty about this and the chances are I could enjoy the holiday but these reservations are weighing on me. I know this will be a point of contention too and likely provoke some ill will towards me in the wider family. I often get stressed about others opinion of me and I need to work on that.

I'd prefer to spend the £4-5K on the house.

Sorry you’re in that position but I think you’re completely within your rights not to want to spend huge sums and 2 weeks of your leave on a holiday you don’t want to go on. I think they’re wrong to ask it of you and your wife is wrong to sulk. As a PP said - practise saying - let me think about it.

OP, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Your partners parents are asking you to spend a lot of money to attend their celebration holiday, and you’ve said yourself that partner spends a lot of money without consideration and no contingency plans. Sounds as though as an only child she’s been indulged and now they are all sulking because you won’t do as they want over the holiday.

While they are sulking, consider whether this relationship is for keeps, because this sort of situation could come up again and again, and the cost of living is rising. That comment about having to make the best of things makes me think you aren’t happy anyway.