My Mum can never seem to defend me or have my back. This is a really big trigger for me as when I was a child I got bullied by my step Dad from the age of around 7 to 18 when I left home. She was fully aware of this and used to confront my step Dad who denied it but that was about it. It’s only at the age of 40 my step Dad has admitted everything and apologised. When I was 4 I was sexually abused by a relative. I told my Mum, she confronted the person who denied it and it was swept under the carpet and we still had regular contact with this person until I was 18 when I reported it to the police. This has lead to me feeling like she didn't protect me as a child and really let down.
Now when any situation arises within the family, she never defends me or has my back. Im not asking her to defend me if Im wrong but she always sits on the fence and just says she’s not getting involved. Ive had therapy in the past and the advice was to tell my Mum exactly how I feel and how every time this happens it triggers all these emotions going back to childhood but yet she cant seem to support me in anything.