Another "friendship" upset

[EmmaH2022]

just looking for virtual shoulders to cry on

I know there are bigger things but honestly I feel like crying
But feeling quite friendless, there was someone in my life who I thought
I could be friends with

But there was a tiny voice saying "too good to be true"
And today, it has been proven
Totally false person

Jekyll and Hyde situation

Can I not even trust women anymore?
It all feels very upsetting - and is it me? I do feel I am radiating vulnerability after lockdown but not sure how to switch it off!

I was watching a Richard Grannon video where he said "people are starting to use people and love things, instead of loving people and using things". I really felt that.

I'm sorry you're feeling let down. I don't know what else to say, as it's a bit vague, but you're having a rough time and that sucks.

Don't lose faith in women. Except for DH and DSs, all my best people are women. When you find your gang of women, the world is a better place.

InsertPunHere thank you for replying.

I always say this.

Treat everyone as you find them first.

Then I look at do their actions match their words. That should tell you all you need to know about them as a person.

It's a good thing to live by to suss people out.

Emma you're not alone!

I have found the same thing, people I thought I could trust turns out I couldn't to the point I have no friends at all.

I don't know how to work private messaging on here but send me a message if you'd like to chit chat?

Is this someone you've met recently?

Its rough at the moment - people are stretched pretty thin in terms of things to cope with and that does not bring out the best in anyone. Friendship in adulthood is complicated - not only do you have to find people you click with which is hard, but they also have to have time and energy for a new person in their lives, which is not always a given. I am sorry you're having a tough time. Hand in there.

Emma feel for you. I feel the same lately. A few blunt texts from friends lately didnt help. Im trying get out more. Im finding at our age late 40s friendships have been form/hard break into a new group

Thank you all, it's good to be heard

I am sorry so many are going through the same

Someone here posted "I have so much friendship love to give and no one wants it", I sometimes feel like that. But I admit I am very much looking locally. Maybe it's like dating - I don't know, do people bother if it's a bit of a journey when the chances of meeting someone are so low.

I might join a friendship app. Luckily this week is very busy with two family birthdays so I won't dwell on it.

golden I met her about six months ago at a local thing I attend. She is moving away from the area and has been quite vicious to some people, unnecessarily from what I can tell. Well, it's vanishingly rare to need to be vicious to people I guess.

I totally take the point that things are emotionally tough for everyone, but on this occasion I think I just came across a narc.

GonewiththeWine love the username! I will DM tomorrow as I'm feeling this week's insomnia so going to try to head for bed....and after all, tomorrow is another day!

Feeling better today
thanks all

Gone have DM'd you.