Long relationship, married with a young child but still fairly young (early to mid 30s) and feeling a bit more like companions/housemates. He has all the right feelings, it's on my side where it's not right. I find myself not wanting to be around him as much. Free time I'd rather spend it alone. Sometimes when he's talking about something I find myself zoning out. I have no interest in sex, feels a bit like something I'm doing more for his benefit. I do have sexual feelings I think but it just never feels right with him. Tried spending time together, making effort with sex etc but sometimes it just feels like I'm doing things that I don't really want to do because I feel like I "should".
What else can I do to try to get some kind of spark? I wouldn't say we've ever been a really passionate couple, at least on my side. So it's not like things were like that and then because of life and children etc it's gone stale. It probably is that too but I worry that the imbalance in that side of things is just more highlighted now there are more pressures on us/me. If I was much older I'd accept this more easily I think but I feel like I/ we're too young to feel like this.