Fairly long story so want to shorten it down as much as possible.
Growing up always very close to cousins on one side. They were the only family in the country that we had. Best friends with one cousin all our lives until my marriage ended and my ex husband starting a hate campaign. One evening he told one cousin a load of lies about me in the pub (always drink involved) and I was then uninvited to best friend cousins wedding and basically made feel an outcast. I was apologised to later in the year by said cousin who realised then the lies but it was a quiet apology meaning the rest of the family thought I had said these horrible things but best friend cousin and I sorted things out and that was fine with me.
Roll on to some years later an aunt who lives abroad came to visit. She had some kind of issues with her living situation and as far as I can now establish, had always queried one of my aunts homes and who owned it or title deeds or something. Anyway as my name had been muddied before she decided to use me as a scaptegoat for her queries and although nobody has told me exactly what was said it was something along the lines of my (who was not born when this particular aunt bought her home or was given it or whatever) apparently querying the title deeds on the property. NOw aside from the fact I knew nothing of the history of the house which apparently there was a history, I also could not care less who owns what and I go about my own business without querying others lives. Anyway best friend cousin and the rest decided i had been bitchy or lied or something and every one of them stopped talking to me. I ended up in hospital this time and then ended up on medication due to this as I was depressed etc.
Roll on now years later and I am happier and healthier than ever and could not care less about them relatives and keep away from them unless it is a funeral. One of my siblings lives abroad and has come back for a holiday and I find out yesterday that my own father has organised a party in my family home for all of these cousins to see my sibling. I only know cos sibling told me, my father himself has not. I have been so upset to feel they are stil being disloyal to me by having this get together and feel once again pushed out of the family and feel pushed out of the family home. It really is playing on my mind and I have no idea whether I need to just build a bridge or actually call my father out on this.l
Am I being dramatic or do you think there is disloyalty going on?