My husband has always liked a drink but in the last year he has gone from liking a drink to a bottle of jack Daniels a day . He has a good job and he can afford the habit but it makes him nasty and angry and dangerous . he always drinks at home and has been placing the bottles in the recycling at night so the neighbours don't know . he overheard my neighbour saying someone was an alcoholic and assumes it him . He is paranoid . He will start an argument with me on the drop of a hat . He is forgetful and I'm worried . We had made arrangements to meet his sister and family for a family weekend . Women being women we make the arrangements. She messaged and said it would only be her and the girls as her husband and boys had other things on . This resulted in him being paranoid that it was something else , he started ranting and raving about it and said he was cancelling. I said ok if you want to . I was thinking I was doing the right thing and not provoking an argument . he said he was going to wait until the last second to cancel but I said no as she was bring two children a long way for this . He then got it into his head that I had somehow sabotaged the weekend and it was my fault . I let him fall asleep but when he woke he acted as nothing had happened and he was going to the weekend. I felt awful as I hadn't slept a wink . I finally plucked up the courage to confront him and said it has to stop and it me and the drink . He has chosen the drink . I'm so sad that 18 years has come to this . Any advise on what to do next ? I'm done with it so staying and trying is not an option but I do still love him