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STBXH new girlfriend.

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harrystylesbeard · 25/08/2022 16:22

I don't know why its got under my skin but it has. She looks a lot younger than him (us), heavily filtered pics but still quite a bit younger. Could be taken as a daughter.

He has dated before and it didnt bother me.

He is a compulsive liar ( maybe a sociopath), cheated and also went to see prostitutes when I was pregnant. He has been with her a very short time but trying to get the kids to meet her - which they don't want to.

I think its bothering me as she looks like a younger version of me. Gah
Any tips ? Wine

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Lilithslove · 25/08/2022 16:42

He is a compulsive liar ( maybe a sociopath), cheated and also went to see prostitutes when I was pregnant.

Reading this I actually pity her, especially if she is a lot younger.

blisstwins · 25/08/2022 16:46

Lilithslove · 25/08/2022 16:42

He is a compulsive liar ( maybe a sociopath), cheated and also went to see prostitutes when I was pregnant.

Reading this I actually pity her, especially if she is a lot younger.

Exactly. Try not to look and be glad you are out of there.

ThinkingaboutLangClegosaurus · 25/08/2022 16:48

Just be glad you're not with him any more. And don't let anyone push your DC to meet anyone they dont want to see.

EndersGame · 25/08/2022 21:20

Try to ignore it and move on

Username230822 · 25/08/2022 21:32

It's natural to feel this way if you feel like he's traded you in for a younger model.

HOWEVER, the reality is, you've had a lucky escape. All he's going to do is waste this poor girl's youth.

custardbear · 25/08/2022 21:36

Lucky escape OP! Live, love and laugh, just with someone else now - she can have him!

redfairy · 25/08/2022 22:56

Remember why you split then count your blessings. It's OK to feel a bit upset but that will wear off eventually and then you'll reach a point of indifference.

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harrystylesbeard · 27/08/2022 10:38

Hey thanks for all the messages! Ive read them all and appreciate them. Had a good chat with my friend last night and put the world to rights. I should feel pity for her but I don't and I don't have to. If she is foolish enough to get with some one who is overweight, bald and looks like her dad because she thinks he has money then more fool her. And I KNOW he is arrogant enough to believe he is still capable of pulling young totty and its nothing to do with the bullshit he spews or the cash that he splashes. He has always been feast or famine.

I remember his last girlfriend ringing me after we split and one of the first things she said was 'look its not about the money, I really fell for him' (He had ghosted her and she had found my number) and I was like 'what money?' He had also told her we wasn't married and had just had a blessing instead Grin

Actually maybe I do feel a tiny bit sorry for his new GF Grin

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balalake · 27/08/2022 10:41

I think the new girlfriend should know what he is like. So have a conversation with her.

More women will suffer if men are allowed to move on without being accountable for their behaviour.

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harrystylesbeard · 27/08/2022 10:57

balalake · 27/08/2022 10:41

I think the new girlfriend should know what he is like. So have a conversation with her.

More women will suffer if men are allowed to move on without being accountable for their behaviour.

She wont take a blind bit of notice. I would have already been caste as the crazy ex who robs him of all his money like I was last time. There is no way on this earth that she would have gotten in to bed with him if he was a bin man. She thinks he has money - she wont care what I say.

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wellhelloitsme · 27/08/2022 11:11

balalake · 27/08/2022 10:41

I think the new girlfriend should know what he is like. So have a conversation with her.

More women will suffer if men are allowed to move on without being accountable for their behaviour.

She won't believe her. He'll have told her OP is a crazy ex / obsessed with him / any other bullshit things to paint himself as a good guy and her as the 'bad' one.

ILikeHotWaterBottles · 27/08/2022 12:00

I'd laugh at him and probably comment that he clearly has a type. Leave the women to it, if they want to be gold diggers, go ahead. They need to refine their technique though and actually find a man that has money. 😂

LoekMa · 27/08/2022 14:56

Lol good advice to get OP in trouble for harassment.

Your relationship with him is over. Stop obsessing over where he dips his pecker, how do you know the new GF cares about how he looks? How old he is or how much/little money he has?

Calling her "as a woman" is such a bad idea, catch her on a bad day and she's filing a report that you are harassing her.

Cant wait to see the MN post about that lol

Lilithslove · 27/08/2022 17:19

If she is foolish enough to get with some one who is overweight, bald and looks like her dad because she thinks he has money then more fool her.

You were "foolish" enough to get with him so it seems unfair to judge her for doing the same. You also don't know that she thinks he has money.

I don't think its healthy for you to be giving this so much headspace that you've created a backstory for why they are together.

YRGAM · 27/08/2022 17:45

balalake · 27/08/2022 10:41

I think the new girlfriend should know what he is like. So have a conversation with her.

More women will suffer if men are allowed to move on without being accountable for their behaviour.

Sorry but this is a ridiculous suggestion. Imagine how she will sound when she says this

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