NC just as don't want linked to my other threads.
My divorced parents announced they were getting back together. However, my father recently did a U turn on this. This was after he had essentially love bombed my mother, asking when she could give up the lease on her flat and move in, planning their wedding, talking about what a nice life they will have in their old age. He didn't even tell her to her face.
My mother is understandably very upset, angry and humiliated. They had worked very hard to maintain a friendship, meaning we could do things together as a family unit with no animosity, which has now gone. She is 300 miles away so I can't just pop round to see her (although she is visiting London and I will see her on Monday).
My father was supposed to call me and DB to tell us, but didn't - I haven't hear from him in days. I had to tell DB, as my mother felt too upset to. It's his birthday and I don't feel I can even text him because I'm so angry. There's a huge backstory with his (supposedly ex) partner, I feel she might have got her claws back in.
I don't want to be so involved as it's not my business at the end of the day, but I'm so angry for my mum. This has a real ripple effect on to the rest of us.
Wise MN, how best to deal with this and support my mother? I realise that my father is a grown man with his own life, I just feel that you don't say the things he said and shift an entire family dynamic without being 100% committed.
(Side note, I had a dreadful feeling he'd do something like this and pushed it away).