Would you let this go?

[Again88]

My OH was away and he was with a lot of people he knows. They do this trip for the youths each year. He went to help out as they asked him to go. I couldn't go as had to work and had a lot on.

What is bugging me is my OH knows I don't like like certain women as seen the flirty texts. They are his friends.
He would say I am jealous of every women he talks to but no there is two I have caught him sending flirty text messages.
But one woman they once liked each other and feel they still do but because of me and her husband they had to cut each other off. Well I know they still talk from time to time.
Anyway I was okay until he spoke to a friend of ours she knows this person and he said her name but spoke in their language. I knew what he said it was nothing bad.
But then felt like I could imagine behind my back the secret chats he had. He said he was busy but he wasn't the whole time I know that. I had a lot on my mind so just put that out my head.
I do want to ask but feel like he acting a bit weird. He still in the holiday blues.
I had a lot to tell him he did seem interested but it's like his mind was there that's why I feel like he had a great time because that person was there. Other people know about them. He said this people we know we're asking why I didn't go.
I knew that this person would be there. I just thought let me trust him. But would love to know what they said secretly to each other.
He does seem weird since coming home.
I just could imagine this heart to heart them saying they still like each other but they can't because of her DH and me.
I remember an event was on she was their and he pretended like he didn't know her in front of me or he couldn't talk to her. I literally am no fool here and I said if it happens again will say in front of everyone that why you pretending you don't know her or avoiding her when you both talk on your phones online. Yes I don't like them talking but don't make it seem I held a gun to his head and he can't say hi to her.
It's the pretending in front of people they don't talk. People know they talk it makes me look bad. But that's not the issue I am not stupid at all.
This why I do have a male friend myself to chat too.
Would you just leave it. Just really having a rant.

All sounds like awful hard work.

A. I'd want to trust my partner so that it wouldn't bother me who he spoke to.
B. I'd want my partner to respect me enough not to flirt eith other women.

There's no trust from you and it seems, no respect from him either. I'd end it on the spot of I found my husband flirting with another another over text. Let alone two women.

That being said we don't know if he was flirting. Or if you just think he was. Because you don't seem too pleased about him to any women by the sounds of things.

*about him talking to any woman

@Pinkbonbon

Put it this way I know the female friends that are just friends and he jokes with. I know the two that I seen conversations in his phone that was flirty and he seem like he liked them more than a friend. He knows I caught him out on it. But he does be honest about talking to these two. I don't mind if he saw them said hi even I speak to them. But he knows it hurts me the history with one. Again he been completely honest about it.

He actually spoke about one of them and just said she didn't stay long. I didn't say nothing. But the other one was there and he didn't say nothing about her. But the thing is I knew she might be there. Instead I do believe he deliberately said her name to a friend of ours so I would hear.

I do want to say something but then will leave it.
I am don't actually think nothing physical went on or anything they couldn't do nothing like that.
I believe they had a conversation.

I get they are friends and use to like each other but don't make me out to be a fool.

Because of something going on with us we not told many people. He seems like he wants it to be kept it a secret. He saying wait a bit longer it's seems strange. I said to him can't wait for people to find out. He was quiet.

It's not that I have caught him before talking to other women online and played along like I was dumb. He screenshot a photo of a conversion.
I always have an instinct and majority of the time my thoughts are correct.

This why I am leaving him be like someone told me. I do he been going away doing jobs for people. That's why I pulled myself back and people are wondering I no longer follow him places. To be honest want them to keep asking him where I am. I give him enough space these days.

I just don't want to rock the boat at the minute.
I won't say nothing just letting of a bit of steam.

Anyone feel their Dp play it clever around people but you know exactly what they doing?

@Pinkbonbon

I mean I screenshot the conversations.

Then remember I said listen I know what I saw on your phone. I described the person and her children. Then he couldn't deny it after. Got past that.

He wonders why I get funny because it's one thing after another. He call me crazy no he been caught out.
I won't go in his phone cannot be bothered no more.

If you know he is flirting with and chatting to other women in an inappropriate way, and he is making no particular attempt to stop doing so or hide that then you know where you stand. Your partner is a man who has his eye elsewhere. Whether or not this escalates to a sexual affair in future is by the by. It is making you feel uncomfortable now. He has no intention of changing. Do you want to stay like this or not? It'll be a question of setting your boundary and sticking to it.

You know he flirts with other woman and calls you crazy?

Raise your very low bar and dump him.

He has zero respect for you.

You are 100% wasting your time.

Just update

I asked him why he so quiet and let him know that I do know his friend was there. I said did something happen. Is there something he hasn't told me.

He said he felt a bit down think just holiday blues. He really had a good time.

I probably just being paranoid but keep a watch on things.

At the moment we are away from him and I plan on catching up with friends and he can do whatever.
He said I still don't get him yet..so maybe I just overthink things but told him don't want to be hurt anymore.

See how it goes but thanks for advice noted.