So conflicted on what to do - everyone’s telling me different things!
My ex ended things with me just over 2 months ago. We bumped into each other nearly 6 weeks ago and there’s been no contact since then.
The breakup was mainly my fault. I was in a terrible place mentally as I was in a job I despised, I suffered hugely and in the end he became exhausted. He used to tell me it was draining him but he’d never leave. In the end he said I seemed miserable around him, and that neither of us were happy anymore.
These last few months in therapy made me realise a lot - he treated me like gold and was so supportive, I probably seemed so ungrateful, and he was never the reason I was miserable. I’ve worked on myself so much since and im in a much better place.
When I bumped into him, 3 weeks post breakup, he was very flirty. But he said it’s too soon and that we can’t guarantee the same thing wouldn’t happen if we got back together. He held my hand, kissed me on the forehead and gave me a huge hug.
He hasn’t unfollowed me on anything.
The last few weeks, something has been screaming at me to reach out. He’s also someone who likes girls who go for what they want.
Viewpoint 1: Some of my friends say to just go for it, message him and ask him to go for coffee, and if he says no then just leave it. Even his sister suggested, a few days after BU, that I ask him for coffee after a month or two.
Viewpoint 2: some friends say to send a letter taking accountability but not expect a response.
Viewpoint 3: my mum said it’s the worst idea ever. She said all his friends and family respect me (they all still like me, like my pictures etc) and I was dignified, and that I’d just ruin it. She said eventually he might realise what he lost but it’ll be too late because I’ll be over it. And to play the waiting game and get the best feeling from that.
Anyone have any opinion on what I should do?!