Improving social life after break-up

[Plethora1]

Hello everyone!

I recently broke up with a boyfriend after 2 years together and immediately lurched towards dating apps to fill the hole. I realized that I wasn’t ready for that and deleted them, and I feel so much better just focussing on myself rather than a man. However, I realized that my social life throughout my entire adult life has revolved around men that I’ve had romantic relationships with. Fortunately I have an amazing sister and Dad who I see frequently, but I just really want some easy-going gal friends that I can go out for a drink with and just chat shit… where do I find them?! 🤣

For reference, I’m 23 y/o and very introverted, and most of my hobbies are pretty single-person centric (solo musical instrument, walking and running, reading, writing, etc.)

Thing is - if you ditch your mates every time you get a boyfriend - you won’t ever have proper mates .
maybe try and do a more group hobby/sport where you have to speak to others

You could try the 'meetups' app. Pick a social group in your area that appeals and just go and meet them. Lots of people are in the same boat.