Opinions please!!!

[Anon1324]

I have been in a relationship for 7 years and we now have an 11m old child. We recently got into an argument and while feeding our daughter, he shouted at me and pushed my face while I was holding her and threw a pen at me and she started crying. I immediately left and went to stay at my sisters. This was 3 days ago and since then he hasn’t messaged once. Not even to see how our baby is! He often is very verbally aggressive when arguing and has hurt me in the past but I’ve stupidly forgave him. This time feels so different as I was holding our daughter. I just don’t know what to do as I have no money. I don’t care what the argument was about anymore and even if I was in the wrong at the time he should never act like that. Anyway I just don’t know what to do now with my daughter as I obviously want to go home but I don’t want it to seem like I’m going back to him. I want to go home to make her feel normal and see the dog! I want him to leave but it’s his house 🥲 I’ve been going home in the day when I know he’s working to see the dog and get stuff.

He’s a dangerous abusive arsehole and you’ve done the right thing by leaving. You’ll have to apply for benefits and ask your sister if she can put you up for a bit while you find somewhere else to live or present at your council for emergency housing as homeless. If he works you can and should apply for child support. Do you claim child benefit? Have access to any credit? You could go to citizens advice for help and contact woman’s aid for guidance.

This is the thin end of a miserable and potentially dangerous wedge, take this as an opportunity to get you and your child out of the situation.

I think you need to go back, and pack your things and move to your sisters while you find a more permanent solution. Please please don't let that be back with him in his house.

And I have dogs, always have had and fully understand that it's painful to have to leave the dog behind, but you must think of your daughter and yourself. The dog will be ok, you might not be if you go back to him.

I put up with this behaviour for ten years. I finally left when he started hitting DD. Don't be weak like I was. Leave.

As @AnneLovesGilbert says. If you can stay at your sister’s for a few weeks do.
Abuse often spirals in pregnancy and after birth, which suggests to me the person always had it in them.
Claim benefits, claim child support, speak to Women’s Aid. StY strong and protect yourself and your daughter.

So sorry to read this OP. I'm going through something similar (not physically but verbal and emotional abuse) and seeing more and more instances of this on MN.
I'd recommend calling Women's Aid for some advice and support. They'll be able to give you support and talk through what options are available to you.
You and your DD deserve better than this - all the best 💐

Stay at your sister's as long as you need to @Anon1324 so you don't need to worry financially. I'm sure she'd be happy to help, especially if she knew he's been verbally and now physically abusive.

At under a year old your LO will adapt fairly quickly to any change.