Green flags in a relationship?

[goldensky99]

Just curious

Definitely not curiosity, that's a 🚩

Feeling like you can totally be yourself with no judgment, you don’t have to put on an act you just be yourself and see the look in their eyes that tells you they love you for who you are.

Am I missing a reference to something? I don’t see how this can be bad unless you live a double life as a cat burglar or something

Manners, asking about you, able to have a healthy discussion on emotive subjects, sense of humour, including being able to laugh at yourself, able to split the bills for things you share or take turns, not feeling like you have to fit gender roles ( eg one persons job to earn money and another's to do chores- unless discussed and agrees) doing the small things for each other... eg knowing what one likes and having it ready or suggesting doing it like a drink/meal/bath/book/film to watch though this is prob more romance.
Ability to back one another in front of others.
Respect each other on difference of opinions, not shout at each other or use derogatory words towards one another. Don't put quirks and habits down, just discuss what may irk the other and try your best to make an effort of it is truly offensive to the other person not to do it.

Is this the sort of thing you mean to hear?

Oh and watching how many people they consistently fall out with? Are they always in some sort of argument /losing people people in their life? Maybe they're the problem. - could be a red flag for you in future. Or you could be one!

Do they 'work hard' or are they 'entitled' ... another big flag.

The first time that I stayed over at (now) DH’s house, he had noticed the type of herbal tea I had in my kitchen and bought a box specially. It wasn’t just that he’d bought it, but that he had noticed. He continues to be one of the most thoughtful, observant people I know.

Feeling comfortable and not on edge as time goes on.

Him pulling his weight in all areas of life.

He treats others with basic respect and courtesy.

It's hard to pinpoint green flags.

You ok hun

Never feeling like an inconvenience
Never feeling uncomfortable in bringing anything up
Encouragement in career, maintaining friendship
Happy to help with family and friends
Being genuinely happy when you are happy about something
Having your back, but also telling you (nicely) when you've been us twat
Being fair

Number 1: admits fully when they're wrong and/have made mistakes AND does that without directly or indirectly blaming you or anybody else OR expecting you to solve the issue for them OR directly or indirectly undermining you or implying you're psychologically damaged for finding fault with something genuinely wrong they've done.

All those parts are equally important, not simply "admitting when they're wrong". It needs to be the full thing. Otherwise it's a massive red flag.

Humour

You mean accountability. That's something women struggle with more than men.

Having good/close relationships with friends and family but boundaries.

Supportive of the little and big achievements of mine and others close to them.

Interests.

Glass half full rather than half empty.

Takes care of themselves: health/hygiene/looks - but not overly so that it spoils the fun.

Likes Loves my dog & cat

Green flags? The complete lack of Red Flags is a green flag for me.

No niggly feelings in the honeymoon phase that you ignore because you’ve still got the Rose Tinted Glasses on. Feeling like I can be myself and let my guard down because it won’t be thrown back in my face.

Things just feel right, easy, comfortable.