I feel like I’m living a double life. When things are good they’re really good but when they’re bad they are bad. I think things are getting worse. I’ve been married 5 years and have two little boys , 2 year old and a 4 year old. DH is a great dad and can be a caring loving husband.
However suddenly things can turn nasty, it could be that the house is untidy a little bc we have two small kids and he’ll fly into a rage about it. I feel like I’m constantly on egg shells and can’t fully relax.
we seem like the perfect couple , we love entertaining etc, throw good parties . But underneath there is this real nastiness .
this weekend we went to a friends bbq, he got drunk and in the car on the way home , it’s was 8pm so I wanted to the kids to fall asleep in the car but he kept playing with them really loudly and screaming . I had an awful migraine so I asked him to be quiet and to also let them sleep. He said ‘ I don’t give a shit about your migraine.’
then later on in the drive he turned on his phone on with a loud video and it woke my son up, so I asked him to turn it off bc it woke my boy off . He called me a mother fu*r whilst my 4 year old heard all this .
once we’d parked up at the house he went to get one of the kids out and I remained in the car bc I didn’t want to go in yet.
he came down in a rage trying to force the seat forward to get the younger one out saying ‘ get out of my fuc* car , out of fuc** house and everything else that I’ve paid for . I was so mad I said , we’ll I’ll divorce you and take half of it. Anyway fast forward two days later he is ignoring me.
the abuse is just getting worse what am I supposed to do? I feel like I’m a doormat taking this . He’s obv now turned it on me bc I said the divorce thing in anger bc everything he has said to me.
I don’t want my kids growing up listening to this thinking this is normal behaviour.