I can’t do this anymore 😞

[embarrassed12]

I wrote a post the other day about finding out my boyfriend had cheated for the second time!

we’ve been together 6 years we have a 3 year old together. We first met at 14 I fell in love with him then, little childhood crush! He lived in a different part of the uk to me so we got back in touch after 10 years then he moved over to where I live and 6 years later he’s cheated for the second time!

He left last week, he went back to his mums who lives basically round the corner. I’m really really struggling! I’ve been signed off work for a month! I went into work and cried to everyone for 3 hours non stop! I’ve been put on a new anti depressant! I sleep about 2-4 hours each night! I’m not eating properly!

I honestly can’t cope, If it wasn’t for my son I wouldn’t want to be here! I can’t imagine my life without him. As much as he’s hurt me and as much as I’d never ever ever trust him again I don’t want to see him loving someone else! I can’t do it!

ive had minimal contact with him about our son. He’s also said he’ll always love me and care for me and he never respected me in our relationship so the least he can do now is show me some respect. He’s said I deserve to be happy and he can’t keep watching himself hurt me! And it’s going to kill him when I move on!!!

but I can’t see myself moving on, I know it’s only been a week but he’s literally knocked my confidence so much I think no one is ever going to love me again! And what if I never love someone as much as I love him?!

someone please tell me it gets better bevause I cannot see a light at the end of the tunnel 😩

It DOES get better, but first in most cases there'll be something akin to a period of mourning. You need to tell yourself that it is OK to be very sad and to have a number of other negative feelings, but also that you can have happiness again.

During this mourning period, try to respect yourself and protect your little one.

I think you’ve perhaps been so absorbed into this relationship and because you were very young when you got together you’ve not had the ‘teenage heartbreak’ many of us have already had.

it is sad whenever any relationship breaks down and inevitably this brings about change that isn’t always welcomed, and it’s ok to grieve for what you’ve lost, you mention anti depressants and I hope they begin to work for you soon and that you are getting support.

but, believe me - this is all normal and you will get over it and learn to live without him and actually enjoy things again.

you are capable of so many things and your whole life is ahead of you to enjoy.
the key is to believe !!!

Most of us have been there. Things WILL get better. You HAVE done the right thing. Don't settle for substandard goods again!

It honestly gets better, pray, focus on your dc, go for walks. 3 months from now you will be happy that you made a decision to not be with a cheater. You deserve better xx

It does get better but you have to allow yourself a bit of time to grieve for the relationship and the fact that he is not the man you thought he was. Ive been there it is sad but you will move on and I can assure you you will be happier on your own than with a man who has admitted and demonstrated he doesnt respect you. Life goes on - you have your lovely son! You and him now - you will be happy again in time. Look forward now, not back!

@embarrassed12

From what you said about him he sounded like he wanted out a long time. He probably done this because he wanted a way out and hope you hate him. He very aware of what he done to you or been doing to you.
He got bored or something and he cheated. You can be fed up with that same person be trapped with a child. You can bring the spark or whatever he felt was missing back if he really wanted. But he chose the let me cheat that will end us for good route.
Only keep contact for your child sake.
I will get better in time but at the moment still raw. You been together since you were young.
You will get through this and please try eat for you child.
Try to be strong for them I know it's hard and you can't see end of the tunnel. It feels like maybe you failed you haven't he wanted out he got his wish.
Try have family/friends around you and just please don't go to that awful place. You will be okay.