My relationship with my partner is on its knees. We have a 10 week old baby and although he was helping at the start, he does nothing now.
He is completely obsessed with work. He works from home and comes downstairs at 8.30 when I'm taking the baby to bed. He is also out 2 nights a week so I get no support. He keeps telling me it will get better and won't have to work so much - he has been telling me that for 4 years.
I literally ask him 1 night a week to watch the baby from 5-7 so I can go have a bath and an hour to myself. He promises every time but is yet to do this. I wouldn't mind but I need to go back to work in January too and he will not do a night feed anymore , saying he is too tired. Even at the weekend he tells me he "needs to catch up on sleep" - even though he sleeps undisturbed every night.
I cant cope. My little boy is glued to me which is fine but I literally ask for 2 hours a week.
He invited his sister to visit during the week - when he would be working - and told me i had to spend the time with her and make sure there was food for her etc...!!I basically forcing me to spend time with her because he would be "too busy" I flatly refused and now she is saying I'm stopping her seeing her nephew. Not true -I just don't want her here if he will be working the whole time... I dont massively get on with her.
Anyway I couldn't give a shit about that. I want out of our relationship but feel completely trapped by our mortgage and the fact I have a 10 week old baby. My mum would let me stay there but her house is tiny so it couldn't be for long.
How do I even start to leave him. I've spoken to him about it and he said if I want to split up fine but I have to leave. He won't.
Where do I even start