What to think?

[planterscorgi]

If you knew a family man type, popular 'good bloke' in the local community, been married for years to an attractive woman, but then found out he had been visiting escorts, what would you think? Would it change your impression of him?

I think @Palmfrond is bang on the money with the explanation of why people may not respond IRL in the same way people respond on a forum. A whole host of reasons, like people not wanting to lose friendships, to people relying on the prostitute-user for their well-being (e.g. it's their boss).
Only the rarest of people will align their actions with their thoughts when it comes to situations like these that trigger their integrity.
So the chances are that people will think differently about a person who has been unveiled as a cheat but it will often not translate into actions. It is just business as normal and that is obviously incredibly distressing for the betrayed partner.

But yet we read so many tales of women who have been widowed or abandoned and then given the cold shoulder by their friends in couples, not invited to events etc. I'm sure the ghosters would have said they'd stick by their friends in a theoretical sense but practically, they don't. Seems it's all about 'balance' at events, fear of the single woman eyeing up their men, and not being able to relate to 'couple stuff'. There was a very depressing thread on here about this last month.

I know many men who have used prostitutes, mostly one-offs when they’ve been teenagers visiting Amsterdam or perhaps infrequently

@Palmfrond My ex said that and he may have been lying to minimize it and make it sound less bad (he lied about a lot of things.)

We'd have no way of knowing how often they've done it.

It's becoming mainstream. People less shocked by it. Desensitization.

A woman's body turned into a piece of meat for the gratification of the penis. We're all supposed to worship the penis. Fuck that. Lorena Bobbitt is my heroine.