I dated a man earlier this year and we had a very strong connection. We dated for four months and had a great time - lots of common interests, I found him fascinating, it felt like we connected on a very deep level. He said that he felt the same way. He had children, wanted more and I was open to that (with him).
A few months in I was finding it difficult not seeing each other more (partly due to the kids) and raised this with him. He said that if he introduced me to them that would solve the problem but that he didn't want to do that because he didn't feel sure that he felt strongly enough about me. Looking back, i wonder if it was too soon for this conversation. We agreed to break up and he suggested that we stay friends.
Since then he's been in touch a lot (I've reciprocated, and have started to initiate too). He's invited me out too, just the two of us (making it clear it was on a "friends" basis) but I couldn't go. Since then we've had quite a few long and emotionally (not sexually) intimate chats via text.
I'm confused now as to whether friendship is really what he wants or whether he is just trying to keep me around in case there's a chance of getting back together. I'm going to speak to him about it but maybe it's better just to call it quits and have no contact for a while. What does everyone think?