Has anyone had this issue and the relationship survived?
I feel he's getting increasingly miserable about things. The main one is food. He will never just "make do" and needs a full meal cooked from scratch at every meal.
So I'll make dinner and if there is no meat or the veg is too soft or it's been slow cooked or god knows what else is not to his liking he will just make himself a whole other meal. He cooks it himself, washes up etc so maybe it shouldn't annoy me but it does. Like what I've made is just not good enough.
Then occasionally he'll get so annoyed that he spends his life washing up and it's so mundane. Well, if you didn't cook an extra 3 course meal every time there would be much less washing up!
He's equally fussy when eating out so will always begrudgingly eat out with us and then be annoyed that it wasn't value for money, or there weren't enough prawns in his risotto, or there's no point ordering ice cream as we have ice cream in the freezer.
It also extends to gifts, days out, holiday etc. He will begrudgingly go on holiday and then I find myself getting stressed making sure all goes smoothly so he isn't proven right that holidays aren't worth it.
To his credit, he often tries not to complain out loud for my sake but I can just tell he's not happy and it feels passive aggressive and even worse.
A few years ago we used to laugh at his "snobbisms", but now it's just not funny.
I'm the sort of person that is so easily pleased, so I just don't get it at all. When life is a bit groundhog day his attitude makes it so much worse.
Well done for making it to the end of my rant!