Trying to live life while heartbroken

[Amby138]

I’ve spent the last 2 weeks in denial that my relationship was really over, i’m finally forcing myself to accept that he’s gone. I’m 27 and we lived together and had our whole future planned out, and all of a sudden he is gone. He’s been so cold and heartless about things too even though he has said he is struggling. Now contact is finally cut for good, and it hurts so much.

I just don’t know what to do with myself and don’t know where to go from here. He owned the house we lived in so he’s still there, whereas I’ve gone back to my mums and need to start looking for a new job as my current one is too far away, and being at this job right by his house is killing me too.

Everyone on here is so helpful, and I just need some advice and encouragement to try and pick myself up. I can’t see it getting any better :(

Oh you poor thing! Heartbreak is horrible horrible and you need to be gentle with yourself! My advice is

Keep your friends close, plan sometime with those that make you smile, exercise is a tonic for clearing your head, don't take too much on at once, delete or block him from everything so you are not looking on social media or hoping for contact. It's painful but it's all about moving forward now, you have so much time ahead of you ❤️

I absolutely promise you it will get easier and the heartbreak will fade. For now take every day as it comes and don’t be too hard on yourself. Make plans with your friends, take some time for yourself whether that be a nice bath and a glass of wine or settling down with a good box set and your favourite takeaway/big bar of chocolate and make time for exercise, the endorphins will help your mindset and the exercise should help you sleep. If budget allows treat yourself to a new haircut/getting your nails done/a massage etc. Essentially keep the early days busy.

The first few days/weeks are the worst OP, time is the best healer.

I was in similar situation few years ago, moved back to my mums, would spend my days in bed crying, feeling like a failure. Looking back, the was nothing to cry about - my ex was making me miserable, yet the break up was still stressful and upsetting.

I met my DH few weeks after that, so you never know what’s around the corner 💐

Take it day by day, think of moving forward, plan for the future and take care of yourself xx