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How do I ask if he likes me!?

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batbabie · 21/08/2022 22:14

So I had a date and all went well. We've been texting back and fourth since but we're both very dry texters. How do I ask if he likes me!? I need to sound as calm and cool as possible x

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Sandcastlesinthesky · 21/08/2022 22:15

You don’t. If he asks you out again he probably likes you. It’s really that simple.

hugefanofcheese · 21/08/2022 22:17

Not after one date! At this stage if he's interested he'll want to go on another date.

hugefanofcheese · 22/08/2022 04:26

Meant to say, just keep up your end of the chat and see how it goes.

2u2me2me2u · 22/08/2022 07:20

i would probably say something along the lines of … anyway, it’s been great chatting, I’m off to bed / work now, let me know if you fancy getting together again some time soon.

for me I wouldn’t want to keep endlessly chatting with no arrangements to meet again if he’s not keen, just a waste of your time IMO. He might not want to be forthcoming asking as he’s not sure how you feel, or he may not be keen but doesn’t want to say, so you’re putting the ball in his court but not in a pushy way, I’d rather know early on so I’m not wasting my time texting back and forth 🤷‍♀️

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batbabie · 22/08/2022 10:22

2u2me2me2u · 22/08/2022 07:20

i would probably say something along the lines of … anyway, it’s been great chatting, I’m off to bed / work now, let me know if you fancy getting together again some time soon.

for me I wouldn’t want to keep endlessly chatting with no arrangements to meet again if he’s not keen, just a waste of your time IMO. He might not want to be forthcoming asking as he’s not sure how you feel, or he may not be keen but doesn’t want to say, so you’re putting the ball in his court but not in a pushy way, I’d rather know early on so I’m not wasting my time texting back and forth 🤷‍♀️

This is great advice thank you so much, I'll say something like this before I go to bed later. Thanks again xx

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ScarletDelaney94 · 22/08/2022 10:53

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2u2me2me2u · 23/08/2022 06:34

batbabie · 22/08/2022 10:22

This is great advice thank you so much, I'll say something like this before I go to bed later. Thanks again xx

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No problem , hope you did and it went well 🤗

I did a lot of dating before I met my DH and used to read the book The Complete Book of Rules it’s got some great advice, how you should act whilst dating and it stops you getting too hung up on what guys think after a date etc, I’d definitely recommend it. 😊

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Mmm I’d think he liked me if he did this, that he was trying to show you that, also getting in first with showing that … did you get the feeling he liked you ?

Hopeful16 · 23/08/2022 06:53

@ScarletDelaney94 did you not get enough answers in your own thread??? Don't make this one about you! 🙄

ScarletDelaney94 · 23/08/2022 06:59

It was an accident I put the comment in the wrong place please accept my apologies. I'm new to all of this. I'm so sorry. I couldn't even find where to remove it from yours.

Justcallmebebes · 23/08/2022 07:16

I agree. Don't ask him that after 1 date. If he likes you, he'll ask to see you again.

Look at the actions, not the words

specialsauce101 · 23/08/2022 07:30

Hopeful16 · 23/08/2022 06:53

@ScarletDelaney94 did you not get enough answers in your own thread??? Don't make this one about you! 🙄

Happy now? Jesus what's wrong with some people.

specialsauce101 · 23/08/2022 07:31

ScarletDelaney94 · 23/08/2022 06:59

It was an accident I put the comment in the wrong place please accept my apologies. I'm new to all of this. I'm so sorry. I couldn't even find where to remove it from yours.

Do not apologise. You can post whatever you want. I've made exactly the same mistake before. Being new to something can be a minefield can't it?

DillonPanthersTexas · 23/08/2022 07:33

Ask him out for a second date, if he says yes, he is interested.

Watchkeys · 23/08/2022 09:44

@ScarletDelaney94

We've all done it. Unlucky for you that this one appeared to be relevant to the thread rather than an obvious mis-post.

You can 'report' your own posts if you want, and get them removed.

Watchkeys · 23/08/2022 09:49

You're in the 'getting to know each other' phase. Why the urgency? Ask yourself why you need to know so badly. Maybe he likes you, maybe not? So what?

Why do you 'need to sound' a certain way? What's wrong with sounding exactly how you feel?

ScarletDelaney94 · 23/08/2022 10:00

Thank you so much I'll do that now before i get more of a grilling

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batbabie · 23/08/2022 12:09

ScarletDelaney94 · 23/08/2022 06:59

It was an accident I put the comment in the wrong place please accept my apologies. I'm new to all of this. I'm so sorry. I couldn't even find where to remove it from yours.

Hi lovely! I'm not sure why people are getting so upset :(
I feel a bit guilty as it's under my post and I really didn't mind and I'm not sure why you're getting a grilling! Xx

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