Some advice here ladies...

[carp2519]

Right so I have a partner who lives abroad. I'm in UK and he is in SA. He is a singer a little bit famous so has alot of late weekends at gigs etc etc. I don't interfere with his gigs and I wait until he is finished to chat to him. Usually about 12am/1am UK time. So I make a new friend (a girl). And because I did not introduce the new girl to him, or even send a picture, I'm getting penalized. Reminded all the time that I've done the wrong thing, I should have introduced, etc etc. This isn't normal right?

Why would he care about your friends?

Penalised?

Why does he need a photo?

I'll put money on the fact he doesn't introduce or send photos
or even mention his new friends.

I'd ditch him tbh.

Sounds like a controlling git, and is probably cheating on you and deflecting.

Of course it’s not normal.

Yes he wants a photo

My thoughts actually....

No, that’s really fucking weird.
Is he jealous that your girl friend is a bloke? Doesn’t make sense.

It because he thinks your friend is man and you're cheating on him.

Super easy to ditch him. Just do it.

*or you will end up cheating.

I needed some confirmation here. Thanks ladies. You are speaking out loud what I am thinking or maybe afraid to say....

Why does he say he is he so desperate for a photo of your new mate? And how do you mean he penalised you?

This doesn't sound normal at all. What would be normal would be 'I've met a new friend, she's called Sue'. 'That's nice, what does she do?' Etc.

Something odd is going on if he's trying to control you. Could be projecting mistrust if he's messing about.

Whatever it is, it's a bloody long distance unless one of you was moving soon. I'm not sure it's worth sticking around to find out what the hell.is going on.

Does he see you as a procurer of women for him?

Have you met him in person because this sounds like a scam

Uhoh red flag

When you say "partner".... have you ever met him?

I wondered that, have you actually met him? How much time do you spend together?

I’d say that the relationship was no longer working for me, and wish him well for the future.

odd chap!

Have you sent him money yet op? Even if he didn’t ask for it

When you say he is your partner what do you mean?

You're not speaking to whoever you think you are.

It's a catfish. And a controlling one at that.

It’s not normal. Have you ever met this man? If not, he can’t really be your partner because you don’t really know each other. And “penalising” isn’t something that happens in a healthy relationship.

This has catfish written all over it

Catfish!