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End four months of relationships?

15 replies

Nati96 · 21/08/2022 21:51

Hi guys, I am a 25 year old female dating a 30 year old man for about four months now. I am quite conservative which he knew about and dislike games and friends with benefits type of relationships. In July he travelled abroad with his friend and became more and more distant - did not call once during three weeks and towards the end of his vacation it took him ix days to respond to a short text of mine. Now that he's back he doesn't call and takes 30-48 h to respond to simple text messages. He didn't have time to see me at all and cancelled our meeting today. Mind you before his trip he used to call me a few times per week and we would see each other over the weekend and once during the week. Am I wrong for wanting to end things? I am disappointed with his sudden lack of involvement and feel like I am wasting time. I rarely ''click'' with others so I am quite sad about this. I come from a good family, currently doing a research masters and I am always complimented for my ''exotic'' looks, yet still, there seems to be something I am missing. Thank you!

OP posts:
Piffle11 · 21/08/2022 21:55

He's already ended it. Don't contact him and get on with your life x

Nati96 · 21/08/2022 21:57

Thank you! He did text and say he wanted to reschedule for next week, about 1 h before our meeting. I guess the message is the same.

OP posts:
Bellyups · 21/08/2022 21:58

As above, he’s ended it but not yet officially told you.

Tohaveandtohold · 21/08/2022 21:58

Sorry but I think this relationship has already ended. It’s only 4 months and you’ve had all these. Please just block and forget him basically.

PrettyPrim · 21/08/2022 21:59

Time to move on.

Lotusflower16 · 21/08/2022 22:00

Don't waste your time and energy on him. Move on! You deserve better!

Fairygarden1992 · 21/08/2022 22:00

You sound lovely OP, there is someone better out there for you

Nati96 · 21/08/2022 22:10

Thanks guys! I guess I just needed an unbiased confirmation.

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Glittersparkle76 · 21/08/2022 22:19

Me personally,I'd just ignore his calls and texts from now on,he's messing you about and doesn't seem arsed whether he sees you or not.You deserve so much better,send him on his merry way and find someone better.xx

hugefanofcheese · 21/08/2022 22:32

Draw a line under it: 'just to confirm I would like us to leave things here with messages and plans for meeting since contact has fizzled so much. All the best'.

He considers it over but is too much of a coward to tell you that. If you do so then at least it's squared away in your mind and you can be open to meeting someone available.

Silvercurtains · 21/08/2022 22:35

He’s keeping you dangling. A man who respected you and wanted to be with you wouldn’t do this. Don’t waste any more energy on him. You deserve better.

Sandra1984 · 21/08/2022 22:41

He has ended the relationship in his mind but he’s keeping you around just in case he’s bored one evening.

blinder · 21/08/2022 22:44

It’s refreshing to read a relationship thread where the woman has great instincts and good self esteem. You’re right, you’re worth more. Being conservative doesn’t mean settling.

sangletea · 22/08/2022 08:00

Ah sorry! This is what men do when they want to end a relationship but too afraid to say the words/ its over

Move on. Delete his number

Moddo · 22/08/2022 12:34

Yeah it's over. Delete. No need for you to tell him.

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