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Why do I keep seeing him around?

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Tallblonde1 · 21/08/2022 13:45

I met a guy end of last year - dated for 6/8 weeks. Things got a but weird after we slept together and basically that was the end of it.

He was going through a divorce and I think it was a bit complicated.

Anyway - I felt it was not meant to be and let it go in peace really. I did really like him but for my own peace I blocked him and thought I would never see him again.

He popped up on my instagram 'suggested friends' a couple of months ago and he messaged me - nothing sleazy at all just the usual. We chatted a bit backwards and forwards. He did not ask to meet up etc. Did not think any thing of it. Since this point I see him constantly by chance - every weekend. Today I met a friend for breakfast as I left the coffee shop there he was. Last weekend I was driving around the round about and he was getting in his car across the street. The weekend before he drove past me. Before that be was in Sainsburies check out when I was walking in. We both stay in the West End of a major city.

AIBU - there is nothing more to this
YANBU - this is weird and something is going on here

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Zone2NorthLondon · 21/08/2022 13:52

You see him around, how is he when you run into him is he appropriate?
I lived in G12 and I swear to god I saw the same folk on byres road, in/out shops
How does he behave around you?

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Tallblonde1 · 21/08/2022 13:55

Zone2NorthLondon · 21/08/2022 13:52

You see him around, how is he when you run into him is he appropriate?
I lived in G12 and I swear to god I saw the same folk on byres road, in/out shops
How does he behave around you?

I meant to post this on AIBU
He is totally fine - he looked shocked when he seen me at the round about as it was closer to the city centre

Its probably just coincedence

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GreenLunchBox · 21/08/2022 13:56

Do you mean you think he's turning up where you are on purpose? From the descriptions you've given, no definitely not. Or are you asking if it's fate? No, I don't think it's fate. I think you're seeing him a lot because you're focusing on him: law of attraction and l that.

Zone2NorthLondon · 21/08/2022 13:57

If he is appropriate and not creepy then yes most likely coincidental

GreenLunchBox · 21/08/2022 13:57

*all that

GreenLunchBox · 21/08/2022 13:59

At a checkout when you're walking into a shop and getting into his car when you're at a roundabout is definitely not someone following you. Unless he's psychic

hugefanofcheese · 21/08/2022 14:38

Just sounds like you live in the same area. If things ended reasonably amicably, later you had a quick chat but he didn't try and pick up where you left off then I'm not sure why he would resort to stalking. I know there are some irrational people about but he doesnt particularly sound like one of them from what you've said, just unavailable. Plus it's you seeing him somewhere random he's already leaving, rather than him turning up or bumping into you outside work or home etc.

Did you know each other before you dated? If not, you probably crossed paths before but didn't even notice him.

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Tallblonde1 · 21/08/2022 14:56

hugefanofcheese · 21/08/2022 14:38

Just sounds like you live in the same area. If things ended reasonably amicably, later you had a quick chat but he didn't try and pick up where you left off then I'm not sure why he would resort to stalking. I know there are some irrational people about but he doesnt particularly sound like one of them from what you've said, just unavailable. Plus it's you seeing him somewhere random he's already leaving, rather than him turning up or bumping into you outside work or home etc.

Did you know each other before you dated? If not, you probably crossed paths before but didn't even notice him.

He knows a friend from uni
Hes a nice guy but unavailable yeah

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Kittyshopping · 21/08/2022 15:11

This happened to me once over the space of a few weeks. Dad of one of my DD's friends. It really got embarrassing as we had been a bit flirty at one time. He was everywhere I was, shops, parks, garage, museum, etc etc. Then, I didn’t see him for several years despite the fact he lives really close by. Coincidences do happen….

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Tallblonde1 · 21/08/2022 15:37

Kittyshopping · 21/08/2022 15:11

This happened to me once over the space of a few weeks. Dad of one of my DD's friends. It really got embarrassing as we had been a bit flirty at one time. He was everywhere I was, shops, parks, garage, museum, etc etc. Then, I didn’t see him for several years despite the fact he lives really close by. Coincidences do happen….

Yes it is a bit embarressing now. ship has sailed and if anything more were to happen It would have by now.

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