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Neighbour issue - fence and leaves

57 replies

ShedThirtySeven · 21/08/2022 13:39

Our semi-detached neighbour spoke to us recently about leaves from a bush in our garden being on her driveway.

It’s an evergreen, and the leaves she was referring to (about a handful) - contained only a few from the bush.

She wanted me to contact an expert to look at the bush, or to remove it. We’ve not done anything - the bush is fine, although we had been thinking about taking it out, prior to her complaint.

Neighbour does all manner of odd things (sprays water from her hose onto our property, anxiety about any plants from our garden - we’ve cut them all back, regularly asks/demands that workmen enter our garden to clean her property, her workman damaged our front wall and she refused to accept responsibility).

End of last week - she’s going to ask for a fence to be put in all around her front drive due to leaves. This is likely to look ridiculous as none of the other properties have fences at the front, and all because of one bush. It also feels as she is doing it more to ‘make a point’.

DP says he could just go and remove the bush today, but it feels as if we are bowing down to her demands?

She has done this type of behaviour with various other things before, and it feels more like a control issue - than a bush issue.

So do we leave the bush and face having a ridiculous fence put up, or take the bush out and let her ‘win’?

OP posts:
TaunterOfWomenInGeneralSaysSayonarastu · 24/03/2023 11:44

stuntbubbles · 21/08/2022 15:34

I would put in six or seven more bushes. Every time she makes a complaint or does something mental: another bush. I would out-petty her until the day I drowned in shrubbery rather than dig up a plant because of its LEAVES

😂Am now regretting my sensible advice.
This is MUCH more satisfying.

ItsRainingCatsAndDogsAgain · 24/03/2023 11:48

ZOMBIE THREAD FROM 7 MONTHS AGO

TaunterOfWomenInGeneralSaysSayonarastu · 24/03/2023 11:52

Teatime55 · 24/03/2023 09:46

Our neighbour when I was growing up complained about everyone’s trees blowing leaves onto her drive (which she hoovered). She would knock and tell everyone they needed to have their trees removed or come and remove their leaves (how would you know which one was yours?). She also mowed her lawn every single day in the summer.
Ignore her. She’ll complain about something else if you comply.

Teatime you slacker which leaves are yours is OBVIOUS had you only labelled each leaf with your house number before they fall. I can't believe you think this is a reasonable excuse not to kowtow #BeKind to your neighbour.

I don't even care that this is a zombie, I want @ShedThirtySeven to come back & let us know the outcome of BushGate.

Ilovetocrochet · 24/03/2023 12:28

Johnnysgirl · 21/08/2022 21:00

Yes, the struts have to remain within your own boundary. That's the case everywhere.

I’ve lived in five different local authorities and have never heard of this requirement before! If I pay for the fence, I have the “right” side facing me.

Cigarettesaftersex1 · 24/03/2023 12:43

Ilovetocrochet · 24/03/2023 12:28

I’ve lived in five different local authorities and have never heard of this requirement before! If I pay for the fence, I have the “right” side facing me.

I've heard this before and apparently it was the done thing once upon a time, no idea why because if I'm paying for a fence I'm damn sure I'm not giving the neighbours the best side!

PaterPower · 25/03/2023 07:03

What happened in the end?

If none of the other properties have fencing at the front then there may be a covenant in your deeds which prohibits them in your estate. Worth checking.

drpet49 · 25/03/2023 07:06

Discovereads · 21/08/2022 13:45

Youve been thinking about removing the bush, your neighbour would like it removed. To me that seems win-win? Not she wins and you lose?

I think you’re over complicating things. I understand she’s been a real PITA, but not taking out a bush you wanted gone just to spite her isn’t going to improve your relationship with her.

The neighbour will think OP has removed the bush because neighbour asked. Neighbour will continue will all manner of stupid requests.

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