So next door but one is a lady who my partner has been friends with for years. They had a brief fling at one point too so it’s always irked me that they have physical history…and he knows it irks me.
she is constantly asking him for favours and to help her with “man jobs” like cutting a hedge and moving furniture etc
and yet he will never do any of our jobs around the house like fix the shower. He is a tradesman and his mates are tradesmen….so the jobs can easily be done!
if I tell him it upsets me that he jumps to help her and not me, he calls me crazy, says I’ve got low self esteem and not to worry about them having anything between them (I never accuse him of this or worry about it) and says I’m being ridiculous getting upset over him being nice and helping. I apparently cause loads of tension bringing it up and if I want help then I should ask.
I do ask. I’ve got a serious illness and a toddler. I struggle with getting on top of housework and we haven’t had a working shower for months, and the bathroom floor is a scrap of old carpet. He will spend his free time on his Xbox or smoking weed.
please tell me I’m not crazy, he is in the wrong? Or am I over reacting?