OLD- this man seems a bit keen!

[Drinknumber11]

For context if it matters - I’m 39 years old, divorced, no children with a good career.

Been OLD for 2 years, had a few dates and nothing really happened. I’ve gotten used to most guys ghosting or not replying.

Been chatting to this guy for a week and arranged to meet next week. He’s coming to the place where I live and asked what day worked for me. He seemed very keen from the get go, for example his second message asking me where I would want to go for a honeymoon. His messages are quite long. Not heard from his since Friday so this morning he messaged saying that he hasn’t forgotten about me or our date, he’s just busy at work this weekend.

I can’t decide whether I’m being love bombed or whether this is actually (despite the keen - ness) a potentially normal guy?

Thoughts welcome!

his second message asking me where I would want to go for a honeymoon

That's a bit much given that you haven't even met! You should be on your guard for future-faking; or worse, suddenly he needs to 'borrow' money to make the trip to you etc. Only time will tell if he's genuine but judge him by his actions, not his words.

"busy at the week-end" is OLD code for married/coupled up.

He’s coming to the place where I live

Please say this means your town and not home.

That aside, I’d run a mile. He might be married or just a bit of an odd ball.

Depending on the context, the honeymoon thing is a bit much and could possibly be him trying to get you more invested. Long chatty messages not a bad thing unless its more of the same and once a date is arranged, not necessary to chat every day. Feels like you're getting a slightly 'off' impression but there's no harm in keeping your expectations in check and seeing how things are on the date. No point speculating until you actually meet as you may or may not have chemistry.

Run for your life

Thanks everyone for the replies :)

No he is definitely not coming to my home!!! I suggested an area to meet in the city where I live.

Is it worth maybe asking him - you’re busy, hope this doesn’t mean you’re already with someone!

his second message asking me where I would want to go for a honeymoon

I'd take this as an attempt at a joke.

Agree with PP - please don't tell him your address.

Is it worth maybe asking him - you’re busy, hope this doesn’t mean you’re already with someone!

GOD NO! If a guy sent me this after I'd already told him I'm busy with work this weekend I'd block him immediately.

Ah phew! 😊

I would just ask what he does in his spare time re:weekends.

But honestly, if you’re feeling something is a bit off please trust your gut. There are so many weirdos on OLD - I know from experience. Personally I wouldn’t waste my time.

No don't ask this, not by text. I'd tell a guy to sod straight off for being so suspicious if I was innocent, and lie through my teeth if I was the type to cheat. You could ask whether he always works weekends, and if theres a second date suggest a Saturday and see what he says.

He’s busy at weekends, lovebombing you and coming to your area when it’s clearly not his

he’s not “keen”, he’s up to something and you know it, because you’re asking here

trust your instincts and decline. He’s married and only interested in a shag.

Honeymoon question so early seems to show a possible citizen of the nation-state of love bombing and run for the hills. From a cold-hearted recollection of conversations, does he say much about himself on a subject or ask you questions first then possibly shape his information to reflect what you've said?

What's the point of asking him what he does at weekends, is he going to say 'with the wife and kids, ooops'? Even if he says a hobby, he can pick a photo of him doing the hobby without a wife in the background. Does he have a main social media account you've seen with his parents, siblings and friends on so you can see he has an active main account that doesn't have a wife and children?

I’ve asked for his social media in my last message but he hasn’t replied to that specific question yet. I was also going to ask him to do a video call.

Really good point re: shaping his responses on what I have said or not. He doesn’t do this completely and does say stuff about himself too.

If you like him go for a drink, it's hard to judge entirely before you've met him. The honeymoon I assume is a joke, he could of been busy with work, depending on what he does, does it seem plausible that he could be that busy with work?
Best not overthink before you've met them, anyone has the potential to be dodgy.

If he carried on ignoring you over weekends after you've met then, clearly something isn't right.

You haven't even met him yet. Again, if it were the other way round I wouldn't share my socials with someone I'd not even been on a date with.

What is his job that involves working weekends?

That seems a bit full on for someone you've not met and I'd be iffy about him 'being in the area for work'. It's a pretty common tactic for guys who are married and looking for hookups when they're away from home. However, I wouldn't read anything into it if he doesn't give you his social media details. There is absolutely no way I'd give a stranger such an insight into my life and I'm really surprised you asked for them. If I was in his shoes I'd be concerned about your motives for asking for them and that you'd basically be stalking me.