Have no support

[Pinkdaisy2]

I have grown up in the same area all of my life, yet part my husband and children I have nobody to turn to for support. I have no friends and no family besides a sibling who has moved away.

we live very close to my husbands parents and they were once a very active part of my children’s lives. However over the past 2 to 3 years they have completely lost interest in them and have very little to do with them.

me and my husband have reached a point where we are both so stressed with dealing with the strain of raising kids and working with no support that our marriage is at breaking point.

we haven’t spent time alone in years and there is just no fun or passion in our marriage anymore. I have nobody to talk to in the real world so I just thought I’d write it down here to see if anyone else is in a similar situation.

Have you tried to make friends? What about your children’s friends parents, school mums? Nursery etc? Have you tried to build up any friendships?

How old are your children? Sometimes you can get help or support from professionals... Ask at your local children's centre or your health visitor. We have a homestart scheme locally and they offer a volunteer to help out (all vetted) and arrange family group trips over summer. So we went to the farm with them and they can help watch your children so you get a break. Nice way to meet others going through similar stuff too. Also what about just using a couple of days leave while kids are at school so you and your husband can have some child free time?

I am friendly with the school mums but I wouldn’t say i am close with anyone, the same with work colleagues. And because I don’t do drop off and pick up it’s even harder. My children are older and I work in that field so I know there is little support available to me. Due to my job I can’t have term time off to spend time with my husband. When I was part time we use to do this but now we both work full time as soon as I finish work I pick up the boys so I’m never without them.

we are planning to start popping out for an hour in the evening soon as one of my children is old enough to watch the youngest but it hasn’t happened yet. Probably because we are both so tired.

people around us would have no idea we are struggling so much as we both put on a brave face. I just wish life was easier.