Ruining child’s life

[BunnyLily]

Do you think if a man likes the sound of his own voice, shouts at the kids, has been caught sending and receiving messages from prostitutes but denied he met up with any of them but I found 3 x messages after random checks over 10yrs and not checking in between, is lazy around the house, lazy with the kids, no money and has been in debt since you’ve known him but refused help to get out of it…

But …. Is loving - says he loves us, hugs us, does a few chores, is around a lot, appreciates you occasionally, is the kids Dad, doesn’t drink, is home every evening even though it’s too late for me to do anything! Always been the same!

Is it worth staying for the sake of the kids or am I delusional?!

If you're not happy, you are demonstrating to your kids that it's a good idea to stay in an unhappy relationship. Is this the example you want to replicate, or would you rather show them that if you're unhappy, you leave?

I think deep down you know the answer to this, you've listed many many reasons why its not worth staying. Never stay for the sake of the kids, they grow up believing this is a normal relationship. It sounds like he has few redeeming qualities and, as you are asking this question, I doubt you're happy.

Thanks ☺️ I guess I just don’t want to leave if there is anything in the marriage worth saving. I said my vows for better or worse and it’s definitely for the worst at the moment

I am asking myself the same question about my marriage, so I sympathise. I read on here once that if you truly want a divorce, you know it. In other words if you are still questioning it maybe you are not really ‘done’ and there is still something there to save. However this of course needs both of you to be willing and able to do what’s needed to see improvements, if our situations are anything alike this might be the challenging bit as for me it seems no amount of discussion leads to change - I hope it isn’t that way for you and that you can fix it if you want to. Good luck

You’re delusional.

that is what you are teaching your children life shouod
be like. Awful stuff. You and they will be much happier alone and he can Disney dad when he wants to

You’re totally delusional

1. Would you be happy if your kids ended up emulating his behaviour?

1. Would you be happy if your kids ended up with someone who behaved like him?

Ask yourself those two questions and answer them really honestly.

If it's a no on either or both counts (which it should be) then staying in this relationship is absolutely not in the best interests of your children.

So you think that a marriage that pisses you off all the time is fine to stay in, as long as your partner stays in most evenings?

What do you think relationships are for?

Any infidelity, emotional or otherwise is a done deal for me. Texting prostitutes - nope I’m outta there. Respect is shown in many ways, this guy is not respecting you and has shown he is a covert operator .