Break up help

[breakuphelp]

I am struggling to break up, and stay away, from my 'boyfriend'. He isn't good for me. I won't go into reasons why, of which there are many - too many. We have broken up a few times and either he comes back to me, or I go back to him. It doesn't help that I am in a high pressured job that utterly consumes me. I am too weak to leave him, and be without his support and comfort. But at the same time, he upsets me so much, that it has an impact on my work. I need to quit my job urgently, to protect my mental health, even though I don't have anything else lined up. I have savings which can tide me over while I look for something else - anything to pay the bills. I am constantly feeling like I am on the edge, every day at work I feel like I am barely getting by - I am burnt out and sick of feeling this way.

Any advice on how I can manage all of this?

Write a list of reasons why you're not good together, then when you have a weak moment, you can re-read the list to stop yourself doing something silly.
Don't change your job yet, let your feelings calm down first. It sounds like you don't need anymore changes at this present time.

Can you get signed off from work for stress/mental health?

I'd do that. Then you can get shot of the bloke, and have time and space to apply for other things, while still getting paid, drag it out as long as you can.

Batten down the hatches and accept it will be tough but remember that it's worth it. You can do this. You are on a journey from A to B and you can get there, but parts of it will be hard and make you question your judgement. Stay strong and remember why you are doing this.

Get time off work...sick leave, unpaid leave etc. Then go away, on your own for a week to clear out your head and watch the world go by. It is hard to think logically when you are still on the roller coaster. So get off, get away and do some thinking about what you want from your life. You will return with a clear head and resolution to change.