My late teen daughter had a long term boyfriend who she finished with last year. All had looked normal and we got to know him quite well. When it started to go wrong it became apparent just how controlling he was being, paranoid and generally quite disturbing. Things escalated and I became involved as did his parents.
After they split he continued to try and contact her. It ended up with me reading the riot act to him in front of his father with the threat of police involvement . Since then it's been fairly quiet, occasionally she'll have a random friend request but she doesn't engage with him at all. It's been over a year since they split
Today she told me, when they were together, he had held a pillow over her face and tried to smother her. He had apparently hit a previous gf too who had reported to police at the time but had not pursued action.
I knew he had disturbing tendencies before now but had no inkling he had been violent.
What would you do? Would you speak to his parents? He still lives at home so far as I know. Clearly the boy/man is a risk. She doesn't want to go to police but put the whole relationship behind her. He is 21.